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just wanna cry! vent
Ok so Im 30weeks and my bf and i were doing ok. We both have our own places to.live and plan on keeping it that way atleast until we know we r in a good spot for good bc we've had alot of ups and downs. Anyways we have had everything figured out for.months about visitation and child.support ect . Well he had agreed to $200 a month and i would right him a receipt every month. Keep.in mine AFTER taxes he brings home 1200-1400a month and Im a.waitress so i bring between 6-800. I will have primay physical custody but we.will still have joint custody. Anyways he txts me.tonight saying how.he wants to go.to court bc 200 is two much and he said he found a loop hole and could get alot less... As far as ai know in NY its a minimum of 17% b4 taxes and i.had agreed to 200 bc i know he has his own bills. Now.Im furious bc to me he's starting to be shady talking.about loop holes. I.just wanna cry!! All i wanted was to try and keep things civil and he wants to go to court. Am i wrong for asking for 200? Does it sound like too much. And what do.i do if he wants to go to court? I never thought he'd be like this and iv never giving it any thought. It came out of the blue!!! Im.actually really hurt by this.
You should go to court. By doing that you will get more than 200 with out a doubt. He should be the one that's trying to get away from court. Be confident you will be on top. Dont get up set. Everything will benefit you and the baby and not him
Think of it like this: can YOU live off of 200$ a month ? Don't think so ! My daughters dad wanted to give be 200 biweekly cus babies need lots of things. Very shady of him to look for a loophole when it comes to his child!
I think $200 is very reasonable compared to what some ask for/get.im sorry your having troubles and I hope y'all find peace soon..maybe he will drop the whole court thing so that it doesn't cause added stress where there is already enough stress.Good luck and God bless!
Thanks ladys! Im still gonna be civil atleast on my end bc that's Wat my daughter deserves when she gets here. but Im done feeling bad... Iv tried explaining it to him and that's all i can do :-) ill leave it in the court hands now. And i didn't know u could use/need a lawyer for family court. Im gonna have to look into it.
Girl here in Texas the most we can get is 30% of each paycheck! So let him screw himself and then he will feel dumb lol
No $200 is not too much, and honestly court will cost him more money bc they usually got for the maximum, and if you have to get a lawyer you can ask for him to reimburse you for your lawyer fees which get expensive
If he wants to go to court, apply for free legal services in your area so you can be properly represented. It's great to be kind to your child's father, but you have to look out for your baby, so don't be afraid to stand up for the money he needs to be contributing towards your child. Many men have to get second and third jobs to support babies they don't live with, but that's how it goes sometimes.
I spend a little more over 200 a fortnight just for milk, nappies, food and clothes if she needs extra. Shes 16months old and growing fast so always needing new clothes. You should ask for no less then 500 a month. Lol I know you cant do that but thats what he really should be giving you a month what a stingy ahole. Congrats to you for being civil and nice about It. Sorry I cant help.
I don't believe that is to much!...baby's are expensive!!...but if he takes u to court he will probably have to pay u more and u shouldn't feel nad because u and ur baby will need things....my ex has to pay $495 a month for two boys...so he better stick to the $200 because i say that NY is a lot different with child support....he sounds like a jerk...sorry...my ex is 26 and still is at home with mommy!!!!
My fiance's brother pays $400 ever other week per child he has and he has 2. So he pays $800 total in child support because the mom's took him to court. One of the childrens moms is trying to take him to court again to double what she's already getting. She has a job and a new husband who both work, but she still wants more money. The other mom is a single mom and working and is fine with what she gets. So no, I don't think $200 is too much! If he takes you to court, he's definatly going to have to pay way more than he wants to. He should man up to take care of his child. Dipars, clothes, formula, wipes, ect are very expensive and it will be easy to go through $200 dollars on just dipars and wipes alone, honestly. The court will relise that. He needs to relise it too! He's getting off easy. The court usually side with the mom, who who has primary costody. And in this case, that is you, so they will side with you. I'm sorry that he's trying to put you through that though. Try not to dwell on it because stress isn't good for you or your baby.
Honestly he's screwing himself over but there's nothing to feel bad about.. he's being unfair for changing things on you and he's going to get his sweet old karma. Besides it's his kid! Why be like that with your own child?
Yea i found a calculator type thing online and even giving low estimates its saying around 300 a month. And i know with his bills he's gonna be screwed :-(
yea thats probably it then. when family like that gets involved and don't like you they usually tell the guy she just wants the money for herself. thats what happened to my cousin and her babys daddy. girl do not feel bad. he wants to go to court. and if he gets screwed over. that is all on him. you told him so but he wanted to be dumb and go. it will be no one but his fault. my babys daddy is very scared to go to court because a lot of his guys friends went and got screwed over. they have to pay more money and all that.
It really wouldn't suprise me if host family was in his ear. They've always had problems with me bc when we got together 4yrs ago he had nothing n was living with his mom(he's a mommys boy) and now he's got an ok job and moved out and is growing up. He's 26lol. I just have a feeling if we go.to court he's gonna get screwed and have to pay alto more and ill feel bad
i don't think 200 is a lot. my dad makes way more then your boyfriend and still was paying 200. he probably has his mom and friends in his ear saying he could get less but that sounds reasonable to me. i know some days paying $400 and thats because there dumb *** wanted to go to court. honestly if he wants to go to court you're going to have to. i know you don't want to but you might have to if his acting like that. I'm very sorry. men are jerks and only care about themselves.
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