Long rant. :(

[Wesbren1012]

Ive dreaded every weekend during my pregnancy because I know hubby is going to come home, eat dinner, and leave to "go work" on fixing up his parents garage (which really means: go drink beer with the buddies).   I know that he deserves a little guy time, but every weekend we end up fighting because he makes up some lame excuse to leave when he knows that I know what he's really doing. He comes home drunk and I can't stand it. I know he works all day, but that's all he does. I don't work but am in school full time (at 9 months pregnant). I had to do all of my classes online which added to the stress. I do all the housework everyday, laundry, dishes, and everything in between. I also am constantly caring for my 2 year old along with everything else. I feel like I never get time to myself and he reminds me of it every single weekend. I know that he works, but at the end of his day he comes home and watches Netflix or plays games. Meanwhile, I've spent all day cleaning, doing homework, quizzes, playing with my son and making sure he's eating but my work day never seems to end until I sleep! Even then I'm miserable sleeping. It just *****. We fight so much lately and I know I can't make him care more so I just wish I could not worry about what he's doing on the weekends. No matter what I tell myself though, not to get angry, you know he's gonna do it  I still end up ruining both our weekends because I'm so jealous of him. I have no friends anymore, ever since my first pregnancy and I want to blame him all the time, but I know it's not his fault. I just feel like if he hadn't persuaded me to be a stay at home Mom in school, then I would still have friends and not have become such a shut in. I hate it because part of me is looking forward to leaving him at home with both kids after i've had my son and going out drinking, even if I have to go alone and solely out of spite! I just know it will never end.

[Wesbren1012]

Thank you. And yea, hopefully things will change. just the thought of meeting my new baby boy takes all that stress away. I try to focus on the positive, but it can be hard when the negative is always in my face. Just looking forward to finishing my degree and stepping back into the work and social world. I do love the idea of staying home with my kids but I get easily depressed not having anyone to talk to all day but babies.

[OorahMommy]

That's such a shame he acts that way. He's missing out I guess I would have to say then that looking on the bright side for now may be your best bet. At least you are with your son and soon to be newborn :) its sad he isn't around much but I know if it were me is be glad he's the one missing out on these moments and not me. Hopefully when the baby comes he will turn around. Best of luck to you :)

[Wesbren1012]

Wow I don't know what happened there! Thanks though! I don't think he'd be bothered by it much to be honest. In fact he would prly just use it against me in an argument, "you have fun, you and Westley go out all the time." I know how his brain works, prly better than he knows I do.

[Wesbren1012]

That's truly a wonderful suggestion. I did take my son to the park regularly but it's closed now because of some Christmas thing. I live in a small town. There's nit really a whole lot to do here. I try to get my son out of the house often, and hubby knows I do, but it got cold out and finals are coming up, i've been super busy "nesting", cleaning and studying. :-(

[OorahMommy]

Go have "family" time with your 2 yr old when he is gone. Doesn't have to be extravagant because that can get expensive. Just go to the beach or park or museums they're all free. Then make it a point to take pictures and talk about how the baby did this or said that. Maybe once he sees he's missing from all the recent photos and how much your child is enjoying family time he will want to be a part of it. Sorry if this doesn't help its the only idea I have that doesn't involve "punishing" him. I hope things get better for you!