not pregnancy related but its bothering me

[jewels94]

Ok so I am a young mom I'm 20 with my baby due in november. And as a child growing up I had daddy issues with my biological father. He once told me that I'M was a mistake while he was drunk, and then again while sober so I go by drunkeb words are sober thoughts..  Now yes I have a step father but I have never refered to him as step dad he has always been daddy to me since I could first talk. Now I have always wanted that connection with my bio dad but it seemed like he never wanted it. When I was graduation high school he told me he wouldn't come because he didn't want to see me until I was 18 a month and a half after graduation
Well now that I am having a baby it seems like he all of a sudden wants to be there. I'm doing baby shower invatations and I called him for his address and what would normally be a week waiting for a return call he called me the same night. Now what is pissing me off is that he is trying to be there now that I'm having a baby bit not for when I was a child?  I'm not ok with that. I know it may be selfish of me to be this way but my daughter is not his 2nd chance. And its so frustraiting and hurtful... am I wrong to feel this way?

[syddie50]

H*ll no girl! I'd tell him to start kickin rocks! I wouldnt let him in my baby's life! I am so sorry he was the way he was. But I wouldn't let him be a part of my child's life. Cause he could just walk out on the baby too!

[Mommy_Garcia14]

I've only met my bio dad once I'm 24 he's never been a part of my life My dad (stepdad) has been there since I was 2 months old he's my dad father daddy cuz he's all I know, I met my bio dad when I was 16 saw him in person when I was 17 and my daughter was 4 months old he found out through myspace I was prego and he was pist off hella mad that i didn't tell him which I didn't feel the need I had too!!ll! After that first visit with him I deleted him on myspace blocked him on Facebook and have NO contact with him he doesn't know about this baby I'm carrying I honestly did NOT feel comfy with him hearing "I love you" from him made me feel disgusting, plus I felt like I disrespected the man who raised me because I did it behind his back, if your bio dad is acting like a jerk f*** him you already have a dad and that's all you need :)

[ragebear]

I feel the same way towards my father I've had the same rocky past with my father he wanted to "take my womanhood" I have a lot of built up hate for the man however recently while trying to let him know he's going to be a grandpa I found out his health has went downhill and no one has talked to him in months .. it ***** but I wish he wouldn't have tried so late to be there for me.. I'm in the same boat.

[victoriamichelle1010]

No. He is your father and he didnt want to act like it. He shouldnt all of the sudden want to be in your life because you have a child on the way. i get he wants to help and be supportive but he shouldve thought about that before he blew you off as HIS daughter.