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now ex gf 13 weeks pregnant trouble
Im 24 and my now ex gf is 21 weve been together for 8 months and have lived together the whole time and even moved 600 miles away together for a couple months once. she has always been a tad bit off the wall but nothing I could never manage. now last wednsday she went down two hours away to stay at her moms and baby sit her little brother for a week and on last sunday I texted her a lot when she was sleeping asking why are you ignoring me and basically I guess being annoying, the next day she dumped me and now this Monday I text and ask if she is ok and that im here for her cause her grandma has gotten really sick. and she said Iam never to contact her or call her that she wants me out of her life for good. But just last Thursday night we talked for over an hour and she was making plans with me for me to move down there with her and her mom and get a job down there and as soon as we got off phone she changed her mind. she wont let me come to try talking to me on Friday she said just please give me space and said she doesn't want to be with me. but she said she loves me and that she means it. and now she is texting a girl I know bringing up every bad thing ive ever done ever and said I will never be allowed around. I love this girl and our baby more than anything and cant handle this. as of now besides her telling me never to contact her today and stay out of her life she has not said anything but she wouldn't tell me if she loved me or not she just hung up on me and told me to quit talking to her mom. Im not sure what to do anymore Im so heart broken and it seems like she completely hates me and wants nothing to do with me at all. and is doing all the things that she promised she would never do. ive heard from one of her friends that she has been hanging out with an old ex. please any advice she has never been this mean to me ever or been mean to me for this long. what should I do. anything I text her or leave a msg the past three days is either ignored or just a really mean hateful response. I love this girl so much and really want to be there at least to see the sex of our baby but now she has told me im never allowed at appointments. I just want her back and our lifes how they were. advice please
Well we talked and now ahes saying we are friends right now and that stuff doesnt matter right now. Thats what she said when I asked if she loved me just hoping we can be a family.
Yea I havent heard from her since monday morning and she was mean. But today she unblocked me from facebook but never said anything nor has she added me as a friend either. Not sure what thats suppose to mean or indicate
I believe sometimes moms can get in the way and make things worse. My mom helps me out but she has to realize its not her kid. I really hope things work out for the better for you.
We wanted a baby and her mom told me that this was her plan if she came to visit. like it was her moms plan to make I like this between us and some how it worked.
Maybe You Should Just Give Her SpacE Like Everyone Is Suggesting And Stop Texting Her. She Will Come Around When She Is Ready. My Hormones Have Made Me Go From Wanting Nothing To Do With My Husband To Being Clingy. She Could Also Be Mad You Got Her Pregnant?
Thank you you guys I would try that but dont know where her moms house ia only went there once they arent uassully very close. I guess ill just have to sit and do nothing. Her mom has 7 kids with different guys and shes never met her dad before so shes always been a little loose. Im just hoping those problems with hormones are whats doing this and hope it stops. If it dont then my grandmother said she will spend up to 30000 to help me try to get my kid so it doesnt have to grow up like that. But I dont want that really. Juat want to be able to have a family
I think you shouldn't text her at all. And just drive down there this weekend. Knock on her door & see what she is either hiding or avoiding. You sound like a good guy & you don't deserve to be done like that. She has no right to say to stay away from her forever because she is carrying your child. & if it's true in fact that she is done with you. You should go to court and petition for paternity so you can have rights to your daughter or son. No father who wants to be there for their child should ever have their rights taken from them. Besides your child needs you. Do it for the child. She needs to snap out of it. & if she is seeing someone else, forget about her in the gf sense because a girl who is pregnant & just tries to be with another man is a *****. I am 22 & expecting my 3rd child from the same person & it's been rough. We have been together for 8 years and i would never do that to him. I would never deny him the right of his kids. Relationship or no relationship. It's beyond the 2 of you. Trust me. Do what i say .. good luck keep us posted.
..aaaaand if none of the above works, take it to court so you can at least prove you're the father of the child & be in his/her life. too often I've seen girls (not women, b/c they're not mature enough obviously) take advantage of the other party involved with the child. you can't force her to be with you, love you, etc. BUT you can prove a point.. that you want/need to be in that child's life more than anything else!
Give her time and space. She is going through massive changes. Try not to.contact her. It will drive her mad to he honest that she is not.the powerful one and Ibam certain she will be the one to start texting you alot. Give her what she asks, she cant doubt your love or affection. Let her be mad, but you.do not deserve to be put down or have to put up with cruelness. By not contacting her it allows you spacr from the heartbreaking jibes. If it.isn meant to be it will smooth over in timen try to.be strong and supportive from a distance. You can be a daddy without being a boyfriend. Try to stay strong xx
@mama7814 I'm glad I'm not the only one that's clingy!! Lol. How far along are you? I'm 30weeks :D
I'm sorry this is happening to you! I really do hope she comes back to you. If she really loves you then she'll be back! :)
Add me on fb? Sometimes not being able to see or talk to the one you love can be the hardest thing ever and can leave you feeling heartbroken. I hope things get better for the both of us
and I know if she never went to babysit none of this would happen like this face to face I did bug her a lot and I think had I left her alone for couple days after I first really really annoyed her things would have been better by now
Householder19 I do agree I've been super clingy to my fiance. Lol he said I'm like his lil puppy but he loves it. It is true tho everyone couple is different.
yeah im just not going to contact her or her family for awhile itll be the hardest thing ive done but maybe she will change if im not begging and nagging all the time and give her time to miss me or maybe if its not better by the apt for the sex of the baby something will click idk
It sounds like she just needs some space and time. Being pregnant our hormones are crazy and we might seem a lil nutty. I've been crying like there is no tomorrow since Friday cuz my fiance went to jail. You seem like a good guy and I know how it feels to hurt. If you need someone to talk to I'm here. Maybe it'll keep my mind of crying til he gets out. :'(
well what I she really wouldn't meet me? she will never say as of today or yesterday now if she loves me or not when I asked her on phone I said can you just answer that and she said no im not going to and hung up. thin I should give it till this Friday or so and try that maybe her mom tod me t was a bad idea
Honestly sounds like maybe she has met someone else. This is my first baby and my hormones make me a lot more clingy to my hubby lol. Like I always want to be around him lol. But I guess it's different for everyone. If it was me an I was in that situation I would just give her the space she wants.. Don't contact her for like 2 weeks maybe longer. Let her come to you, let her contact you and if she doesn't then obviously it just ain't meant to be. Just be strong about it! And if it comes down to it all you can really do is move on with your life. You sound like a nice genuine guy, everyone deserves someone that wants to be with them. If she never comes to her senses and wants you back, than I'm pretty sure you'll find someone that wants you and loves you unconditionally! :))
and her grandma is really sick and got sicker today and I texted her and told her im sorry about your grandma I know she means a lot to you and that ill pray for her and im here if she needs anything. she called four hours later saying I need to not ever contact her or her mother again and she wants me out of her life I texted her mom and minutes later she called me six times in a row but I didn't answer cause I cant handle hearing anymore mean stuff anymore and she texted me and said your ignoring me. thanks you for finally getting the picture. like this is seriously killing me I aint ate or slept much in days and told her this and she jus ignores me
Yeah that's how I was too because I didn't want to deal with it. But I know if he came I would of changed my mind. You can always try it and if when she sees you she feels the same then you will know
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