plus size mums out there?

[Nikkiixxx]

Am feeling quite rubbish to be honest! Was on a diet previously to getting pregnant due to getting married next year which was going really well. Obviously had to stop for baby! Partner keeps telling me Im beautiful, but I just dont feel it! Would love to feel pregnant and not just fat. Doesnt help when midwives etc go on about my 'high BMI.' Just looking for someone that feels the same? Am so jealous of slim people with their perfect bumps! Im 17weeks + 2days xxxx

[mrsonens]

Me too my first midwifes app she said il have to see a consultant as ' obviously there's an issue with your weight!' Well don't u think I know!! On the plus side haha literally I did go to slimming world before I had my son and the doc told me u can go to slimming world when pregnant cos they don't limit ur food! May be useful to know hope this helps

[Nikkiixxx]

Dont worry - we're all beautiful! They really dont have any place to bash us when in pregnancy we cant really do much about it. Muscle also weights more than fat and they dont consider how muscular you can be. Someone on this post really did make me feel better aswell - like she said our bodies are temples and we are creating something magical. Im sure all this feeling will pass especially once your holding your beautiful baby. The love you hold for that baby will outweigh any negative thoughts your currently having because of your OB. Id say take someone close with you and also let her know exactly how shes making you feel. You already know the situation - no need to keep hearing it! Wish you all the best xx

[beccasaurous___]

I hate that my ob bashes on about my BMI. Makes me feel more horrid about myself then I already do ):

[Nikkiixxx]

I have a very vivid memory from when a was younger seeing a doctors expression when the nurse told him my weight & id been in an accident. Made me upset at the time but realise some people are just inconsiderate nasty pieces of work! Plus my mumma went and gave him what for as she works in the NHS. Strolls in the sunshine with baby to help when he or she is here :D

[Nikkiixxx]

I know coming from where i do i can seem abrupt and rude when i often dont mean too. No stress thats why i keep putting smileys! :)

[armywife93]

I know how you feel for sure. I want to be one of those girls who just has a belly and nothing else. But I was a bigger girl prior to getting pregnant :( my husband tells me I'm even more sexy now but I definitely don't believe him haha. Its hard hearing that I'm overweight by the doctors :( but my nurse is very nice and sensitive about those feelings so she doesn't make me feel bad. I plan on just kicking *** and losing a bunch of weight after having baby and healing a bit :)

[Nikkiixxx]

LOL. For some it can be hard to love their body at times. Im aware BMI can be wrong, Ive been a strong swimmer since forever therefore have alot of muscle, but it would be nice if healthcare proffessionals take that into consideration - just because we arnt their ideal woman they dont! And i was stating I do not obsess over my body, have only felt this way during pregnancy - naturally. I dont feel I have been rude at all. Because stating 'facts' like that arnt necessarily going to make ladies already feeling low about how they look during pregnancy feel much better. sometimes only worse - may feel their then failing their child rather than take it in a 'then Ill have to sort it out for the sake of my baby' which Im sure is how you meant it :). Im sorry if youve taken how I speak rudely, I didnt mean to offend you. Im hardly looking for an arguement or conflict lol!

[gypsylopez]

You're the one being rude. I simply said
1) bmi shouldn't concern you because it not always correct
2) love your body
3) moms who obcess over size are more likely to teach that to their kids.
Not one comment was mean I'm sorry if a FACT upset you. Youre the one who took it all personally. You're the one who gave it a negative context. I do read properly by the way.  

[Nikkiixxx]

Thats not how you made it sound though is it?  If you read properly youd have seen its a pregnancy thing, rather than me being obsessed over my image and being likely to make my child feel that way when I know thats not the case. Naturally Im going to get defensive of this - isnt that a normal part of becoming a mother?  You don't need to get sarcastic and Im sorry you feel you do. Maybe just choose sentences a lil more carefully with hormonal pregnant ladies :).

[gypsylopez]

That is not even what I meant.... Thank you for taking my encouragement out of context.

[Nikkiixxx]

Actually I was very confident beforehand, and have planned to hang my car keys up and walk everywhere once baby is here to help get back into shape. i dont obsess over my body image the way you seem to think I do, and Im confident my baby will not worry. Its a actually the outside world that have judged/gone on at me about my weight that have made me feel this way. I dont think its fair to judge and say we are likely to make our kids obsess over how they look when its just a pregnancy thing!

[monasuarez]

Thats me too i have curvea ans before i was pregnant i did have big boobs and big hips thick thighs to i wont like my body of i was smaller but while pregnant hormons are makn me really emotional so it makes me feel big but dont get me wrong i love my body and im starting to show a little bit already my husband say that! Especially when im side ways a little bump xan be seen im happy!

[gypsylopez]

I'm 5'3 165 before pregnancy but my measurements were 42" 30" 44" bmi is ******** I have curves and I am blessed. It says I'm obese but I'm only just a little chubby and really healthy. I would look so gross at 130 pounds...  I'm now 15 weeks, 172  and I actually have a lil bump. Own yah body ladies, you get one life and that's what you wear plus kids of moms who obcess over body image are waaayyyy more likely to suffer too.... Do you want them to feel this way too??? End the cycle and love your body.

[Nikkiixxx]

Thats amazing! Thankyou so much :). All you ladies are WONDERFUL and your all making beautiful little miracles. We have to stick together! So many people dont realise how they make us feel

[Nikkiixxx]

Im in the rainy UK! Will fly by til your scan and the day will be AMAZING. I cried so much with happiness seeing my little miracle! And emmers it will be fine :). Have decided any docs make me feel crap they are gonna know!! No point bashing us ladies about our weight when in the current state we cant exactly diet and go.excercise mad and lose it!  Am also taking partner to all appts as a hand to hold xx

[amandak0805]

Thanks. I will. This stuff is all new to me. Right now i just feel nauseous all the time. Like 75% of the day. If I lay down I feel worse. I don't work so I feel jailed in my house. My husband tries to help but really nothing can be done.

[spurlock13]

I was and still am a plus size mom i was a size 22 and 250lbs before getting pregnant i.was trying to lose weight from my first son i then found out i was pregnat but i have been eating healthy and staying away from sugar and sweets and i got down to 240lbs and now i am 37weeks 6days i have a big baby bump but the bottom is till squishy because i had a c-section with my first son and i am 257lbs but my son and this one i am carrying now make me feel better about being a big women because i know that my body is a temple and made 2 wonderful blessings and no.matter how big i am they are all i need to make me feel okay about being a bigger women... hope this can.help brighten up yiur pregnancy and i hope yoy start to fesl better

[amandak0805]

My first ultrasound is march 14. I worried about the summer to. My birthday is in may and my brothers babyshower is in july at a park. I live in fl. Where theheat just sticks to you.

[Emmers2121]

Im having those feelings too :/ idk I had just started a diet and lost 20lbs before I found out.... but I hate the way I look and those slim mommies to be have me so jealous of how cute they look I just look like a whale :( I did lose 26 lbs from weeks 1-21 but I have started to gain it back which isnt helping my blues

[AmberL1094]

I know how you feel

[Nikkiixxx]

Also dreading summer being so big and so hot as Im due in August! I guess its because lost weight I fell pregnant. You see I also love my fruit and veg! Could live off the stuff! Keep us updated on your little ones! :) cor i remember how I felt at 7 weeks, have you had a scan yet? The waiting is torture!

[amandak0805]

At the end of this month.

[amandak0805]

Girl I feel your pain. Going to the doctor before being pregnant and saying your obese and now I'm pregnant.  I'm eating healthy but I'm only 7 weeks along and so worried for the future weight gain. Esp. At the end of my nephew is having a pool party for his brithday. Egh. So excited. I feel your pain.