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relationship downhill :(
heya ladies,im 6 weeks pregnant with my first baby! i am so excited even though it doesnt feel real yet until i see him or her! well heres my problem, me and my boyfriend have beeen together for two years nearly, hes walked out on me before and weve always had problems, all hes done in the past is accuse me of being unfaithful even though im 17 and have slept with only him, he cant beleive that because he thinks im a lier, ive never lied to him about anything before ladies.. he just makes me cry all the time :( i just feel so useless, today he said to me he doesnt think the babies his, it actually made my heart sink reading it. he says he needs to know and me saying its his isnt enough and he wants a dna test, how can he say all this to me when ive only ever been faithful and truthful to him? :( how can he support me and the baby if he doesnt beleive its his? what do i do ladies :( x
He sounds like a child. Leave his ***, have that baby, if he denies paternity he.will have to.pay to.prove it and then.you take.him for child support. You don't need the nonsense. NONE OF YOU.LADIES need the nonsense. A man only treats you the way you let them. That goes for anyone. You keep.putting up with it then of course its going to keep happening and it will only get worse. Immature people either grow up or they don't....guilty people lash out on others. In 26 years I have learned that much. I agree with Ashdub ....he can kick rocks : ) You can raise that baby without him making you miserable
The important part is that you stay strong though. You can't cave and apologize because he starts being an a$$hole. I know it's tough and you love him but boys are stubborn. You need to stay strong, tell him off and wait it out till he comes crawling back, begging and grovelling at your feet. You need to name him realize he doesn't have you wrapped around his finger. When he realizes you're serious and not coming back, he'll start to miss you and feel like adouche
Seriously tell him it's over. You can't just be his doormat and you need to make him realize it. You tell him you're sick and tired of this sh!t. That this and your child are bigger and more important than this pathetic excuse for a relationship. You're done being his doormat and if he doesn't wanna be a part of his child's life then f*** him. You don't need him
Its a horrible feeling knowing no matter what you do its never going to be good enough! I keep telling myself he will change but deep down I know he's not and I think that's what hurts the most I just don't want to look back in 10 years and realize everything I went through was all for nothing! I love him with all my heart and I pray every day that thing will work out for the best! I hope things get better for you!
i feel exactly like you teenmomma, its how he makes me feel too its horrible :( it makes me think if hes the one cheating like you said he cheated on you, thats why i think they are so paranoid! it hurts so much. i give everything to him and all i get back is being accused and tears, hope your ok hun atleast theirs other ladies going through the same thing xx
i feel so let down i give him my everything i thought this would be one of the happiest times in a mans life when they find out theyre having a child, he was excited at first and then ever since hes tried to pressure me into getting rid he says im selfish for wanting to bring a life into the world, i would nevr choose a man over my baby, he makes me feel so low about myself, ive only ever being faithful but yet he doesnt beleive me, how can he doubt the childs his after everythig ive done ive even gone back to him after he broke my heart at christmas. i just dont know what to do anymore i do love him, so much its why ive stuck through all his accusations hes accused me of, hes always made me cry im just trying to me im just trying to be strong for me and the baby, i just dont understand why he does this to me and why he doesnt trust me, do i let go of him or hold it together? :(
My bf is the same way I'm 19 and we have a 3 year old daughter and I'm 30 weeks with our son and I've never cheated or even thought about it! He cheated on me when I was 6 months with my daughter and he constantly accuses me of cheating on him and he says he doesn't trust me and wants a DNA test on both even tho our daughter looks and acks just like him. It hurts so bad knowing that I've never done anything wrong but I know he's never going to believe me and the fact that he has cheated on me and I let it go but yet I'm the one who gets all the sh*t and I would never do him wrong like he did me! I always cry bc I know its pointless to argue with him bc in his mind I'm a cheating ***** and I feel so useless and unwanted.
What an @$$hole. Screw him you don't need that **** and your baby doesn't need him either. Give him the DNA test then tear it up in his face and make him sign over his rights
well I'm sorry to say it but most of the time if someone in the relationship keeps accusing the other person of being unfaithful and cheating its because they themselves are the ones cheating and feel guilty so just assume your doing it to. I would say unless your really happy with him he sounds no good for you. and its not good if your stressed out when your pregnant. your the only one who can decide what's best for you though.. good luck hun!
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