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scared and cant sleep.. need to talk

As many of you know I had terrible news from my dr today.. I have to terminate my pregnancy because the baby is half way in my tube. Well the placenta is anyway.. from what I understand.. I have been an emotional basket case since finding out and the sad thing I must due in order to save my life.. I've been doing a lot of thinking and have no one to go to the clinic with me as 'body guards' to fight off the protesters... my doctor said the the hospitals won't do the termination unless I was further along and in critical condition. So I have to go to the local abortion clinic. I've done research on the dr and read reviews on him and feel alright about seeing him.. my biggest fear aside from loosing my little angel is getting thru the protesters.. I've heard what they say, I've seen how they act and the sh*( they hold up as signs and throw the bible at you while calling the woman a killer and other horrible things as I drove by.. how do I get thru the door without them harrassing me? And how do I walk out hours later without the same? I have a huge temper and don't hold things back. even more so when when people try to shove the bible down my throat as they call you a killer.. I've been tought as a child christians or anyone who believes in jesus are loving non judgemental people who will help and support... anyway I guess my question is, how do I get in. And out without them being harsh and without me giving them the bird multiple times?
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Were do u live that there's protestors?
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Is the abortion pill an option where you are? A close friend of mine has had two tubal pregnancies, the first time she had to have surgery and have the whole tube removed and the 2nd time they offered her the abortion pill in order to save her remaining tube. She's just started ivf today to try again for a baby :-)
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They do. But I have issues swallowing pills. That and something like that I may just trow away because I couldn't bring myself to swallow something to kill my baby... I don't want this to happen but since its a must health wise I jjust want it to be over as fast as possible... and I think I'm too far for the pill...
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Just keep your head up and try to ignore what everyone has to say. It's for YOUR health and safety. They don't know your business and sure as heck don't need to know. I'm sorry you have to go through this, but it is for the better. You wouldn't want to risk both yours and your baby's life. Everything will be okay.
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Wow that is a tough one is there no way your doc. Can do that at like a same day surgery. I know where I live that's what they do?
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2104110 tn?1358318243
Firstly, I'm so sorry to hear the unfortunte news, I wil pray for u my dear, I cnt imagine hw u myt b feeln, an thse ppl r ignorant to ur situation, knw tht u r doin wts best under the circumstances I hope everythn goes well.
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I am sorry you are going through this :( I can imagine it is hard. Maybe you could try headphones on the way from the car to the door and vice versa? That way you could atleast not hear them. I know this is hard and I know those people will be very frustrating but you can make it through. You know what is best for your health. Good luck with everything.
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Please look at it like this doll. If you have the bby it wouldn't be okay without it's mother. You know why your there you don't have to explain the situation to anyone. Only God can judge you. Those ”Christian” protesters are full of $#!+. Those that judge get judged the harshest once their time comes. Hold your head up and be strong. Nothing is a better quality in a mother. <3
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1938385 tn?1332068714
i am so sorry ur going through this and alone to. i can understand wer ur coming from because  i had to terminate my first pregnancy due to medical reasons i was 13 weeks went for my first scan n they told me my baby had acrania (the skull and brain didnt form properly) they told me he/she would not survive outside the womb so i had to terminate. to this day i still blame myself for my baby not being healthy. but im now preg again and with a healthy baby girl and im so greatfull shes ok 37+6. i wish u all the best in the future and a healthy baby next time. good luck for what u have to go thru ur a strong lady. xxx
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Thank you all so much. I will be on this off and on until it happens... you women are awesome!
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I'm so sorryfor what you're going through. I echo what everyone has said. You have nothing to feel guilty about. Ignore the ignorant..judgemental idiots who think its okay to inflict guilt on others. Some great Christians they are hey? Stay strong. We are all here for you xxx
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Hoe many weeks are u? So sorry to here everything ur going through... God bless u;-)
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I so wish there was another place you could have this procedure. As a Christian myself, I feel ashamed of the people who protest the clinics in such ugly manners. "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." They seem to forget this.   I had no idea a person in your situation would have to go a clinic to have the procedure done. I don't see this as an abortion and I'm so sorry you may have to go thru the ugliness outside the clinic doors.  I hope you can find someone to go with you. You may need someone to drive you home.  You'll be in my thoughts.
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I am so sorry .....this seriously moved me to tears :/ ......i can't even imagine how your feelinp but don't worry too much I know It's hard to say that but just keep your head up and know your doing what's best for you And your baby...like I've said before your a great mommy still and you always will be...sending nothing but love best wishes and prays your way.
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If anyone of them put their hands on you or throws something at you call the police for harassment and press charges. Do what you need to do and what you think is best. Those people have no right to judge. Keep your head up. Don't hate them for their ignorance just pray for them. we are here if you need to talk.
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