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scared of the worse

I am 8 weeks preg with my third child and can't stop thinking the worst is gong to happem my first bab was a happy health baby and now she's 2 my second bsby however had spina biffida amd died after birth at 23 weeks any sdvice on how to calm ny nerves?
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Aww I understand why ur worried,  always look to positives,  only 4 more weeks and u can have scan and hopefully baby will be fine. Don't stress just try and stay busy keep ur mind occupied,  take a nice long bath or face mask or go clothes shopping anything u can think of to cheer urself up. Remember stress is bad f baby! I'm sorry f ur loss. Best of luck t u,  if u wanna chat u can inbox me. God bless
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Thanks I'm finding it hard to keep mind occupied I have a geat team of midwifes where I live and have lot of faith inthem I havea scan on Tuesday to see if all is going to plan I should fel better after that :) I hpe don't think I will be compleat stress free untill bubs is here thanks for your your kind words
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Its totaly normal for u to feel that way. I had an etopic pregancy and had to go for emergeny surgery and was told ther was a chance i might not hav kids. which for any women is so hard to hear. I no its not th same thing but it was a terrible time for me and my partner. When i found i was pregnant in oct it was th best and worst feelin bcos i just wanted to no everythng was ok. and now im 31+2 with a healthy baby and we cldnt b happier. so dont think negative thots and roll on tuesday. its always the longest time ever until u get ur scan and they put ur mind at ease. fingers crossed for u and plz let me no how u get on xx
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Yeah all shoud be fine just nervs I think :( I do hve a really good feling about itthis time too so let's hope all is ok only thing puting me of is I had avgreat normal pregnancy untill defect was found at 21 weeks so don't think I can ralax and it was not long ago as my baby girl we called her angel was born on 8th of novmber so only been a few months and emotions are still raw :( I'm sorry to hear wat happened to youand glad all is ok now :) an I will defo keep all posted on tuesdy after my scan thanks :)
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I couldnt imagine how u must hav felt. Wen i had the etopic i found out i was pregnant and was havin suvire pain and a week later it was all over. Didnt have time to process it all. I had a gd feelin about this pregnancy straight away aswell, wher as bfor i just new somethng wasnt right cos i was in so much pain. Im sure everything will be fine but it defo still plays on ur mind. Sounds terrible but im still waiten on something goin wrong its always at the back of ma mind i think once my baby is in ma arms i will believe it.x
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I am sme once baby is here it will be great untill thenbi will prob just worry idont want to have to burry another child :( im only 22 I am looking forward to Tuesday noe only few more dys thenbi get to see baby; n screen for first time which is always magical :) but at the same tme dreading t as Tuesday is what was men to be my little angels due date :( mxed emotions I think
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Make it a good day. Everything will be fine. Once u see th baby u will better. But defo once ur holdin ur little baby it will be amazin. i hav 9wks left and cant wait to meet my baby. Makes it more exciten cos i dnt no if its a boy or a girl!!
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Yeah I think t will be. Good day ;) 9 weeks not long do u have a feeling towards what you think you arebhaving?
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Well my whole family hav said a boy but recently i think a girl i dont no why. So i really dnt no lol. Are u goin to find out wat ur havin? Ano its flew by 9weeks doesnt seem thst long away but still long anough lol.
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Yeah I find it easierto prepare I knew both times I wa having girls this time I think boy :) will found ut at 15 weeks tho so no long :)
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Yeah I think I'm having a boy :):  knew I wa a having a girl both tmes before I just knew it hadva really strong feeling :) would love a boy sobfingers crossed :) you can let me know when baby arrives what you had :) do u have names picked out?
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