strange fear of father...?

[ICantWait2CU]

Oke so i have a weird fear... I was molested by my father, my sister j was beat by him, and my sister a and brother d was raped by him. I was in one of those "truly dysfunctional messed up in every way" families. But my mom saved us and fixed everything while putting him in prison for life. But... i am pregnant now with a man i love and who with no doubt... loves me. But because of past happenings, i sometimes think... what if he does something like that to my child. Im not sure what im having and i wanted a girl at first but now i hope and pray its a boy due to this fear. Its horrible. I know he would never... but my mom ever thought my dad would be like that. I feel like crap because my fiance is my everything... why would i be so scared of him doing that at the same time? What do i do to get rid of this fear??.....

[ICantWait2CU]

Yea... you guys are right. But im not sure how to get counseling... I mean like where do i go to try to start it.

[Omacastrop]

My father molested & best us to within an inch of our lives. When I grew up & started having children it came back to me in full force. I would never let my husband change diapers or give baths. I knew this fear was not valid bc my husband would never, ever do that. But it was my fear & he just respected it. If I was in the room he could change diapers, etc. now 1 of my daughters is pregnant & I keep telling her u have to be careful as too who u let be around ur child. So even yrs later, I still have that fear & I have had years of therapy. Sometimes u just have to give that blind trust:)

[tiny321]

Yes I know ur fear but pleaswe don't scare ur relationship away

[Starzabove9]

It is normal for you to be hypervigilant about this issue. Please seek counseling to help you process your fear so you dont carry these feelings over to your fiance or your child. It will help.

[parkersmommy]

See someone and understand it's not your fault and that you're fears are completely reasonable considering what you've been through