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teen mamma.. kind of a rant , ion know.
I find it ridiculous how I get judged because I am a teen mom , what makes it even harder is that I am a colored pregnant teen . like I'll hear people say things like " oh just like black ppl , such uncaring things " .. like damn ? its like that ? because of the color of my skin I am a THING ?! im not evem fully black to be honest , but most ppl don't care because all they see is the color of my skin . I proudly represent my race thou . I am very proud to call myself a mother to be , ppl look at me with such confused and shocked faces when I show I am happy to have a baby , like whats the problem that I am happy ? being sad and mad isn't gone change a damn thing so honestly what am I going to do it for ? most women would LOVE to be able to give birth to a child , I feel so blessed that allowed my body to function correctly to have a child . the comment that REALLY catches me is " wow your pregnant? your life is over ! you have to give up everything ! " uhm ? no my life aint over and no I do not have to give up everything , isn't a child supposed to be a gift from god ? a bundle of joy ? why would god give me a gift to " ruin my life " ?? is it going to be a walk in the park taking care of a baby at 16 ? hell naa , but it really wouldn't for a women of any age , having a baby st any age is going to be pretty tough , I uunderstand that it could be a little harder on teens bc we have to work , go to school , worry aabout the baby , then worry about college , but its not impossible to do all of that , especially if you have the right support and help . I plan on doing whatever it takes to make sure my baby gets the best and has the best life . if its in gods plan then it WILL happen . im not going to let these ignorant comments get me down anymore , tellin me what I can and cannot do like they can see into the future , you aint god nor are you jesus . so please tell me how in the flippy fadoodle doo, do you know whats going to happen in me and my UNBORN childs future ?! I am very well educated for my age , no im not trying to brag iv just been told that through out my life . im pretty sure SOME of the other teen mothers are very well educated as well , so please don't treat us as if we are dummies . im young not stupid ..
Keep your head held high because their opinions don't pay the bills or take care of you and your baby I'm a ftm and 24 and everyone that knows me keeps asking when we are getting married like I have to just because of my child there is always something people will find to try to shame you and you're right its hard to have a child for almost every woman in one way or another I'm a licensed nurse and have my boyfriend with my parents support we live together but me being sick so much early on in my pregnancy set us back financially but we made it and now we are back on track since I'm feeling better its your attitude towards having this child that matters and it sounds like you are well prepared for whatever gets thrown at you with a baby you have to take the good with the bad and keep moving I plan on returning to school as soon as I have my son it will be a challenge but my parents have offered to help and if I get it done early I'll be done before he is in preschool God bless and the best wishes to all you ladies!
Theres nothing wrong with being a teen mom. I'm African American and I had my daughter at 15... I still graduated.. Im 18 now And I have my own place own car and happily engaged... I'm pregnant with child #2 now...Never thing because yu have a child it over.. Its not it just take determination and support.... I wouldn't change nothing in my life.
Ok for one coloured is an outdated word. Especialyl since the majority of all races in America are mixed in some way, whether it is from mom and dad's side or way up there family tree. No one is just one color. Some may be more fair then others but we are all mixed. So I think going into this you need to be proud just to be apart of this big melting pot we call America.
A lot of people don't realize that, so their ignorance or denial may get the best of them.
You know at one point in time, 13 was the age to get married and pregnant. Social standards will change with each generation. So don't worry girl, there will ALWAYS be someone who doesn't think what your doing is right. As long as you are a good mother and keep your head on straight you will be fine!
I am 22 years old, white/mexican, not married but engaged to my love of 3 years. When I told people I was pregnant, the first thing they said was "Are you happy" with a frown on their faces. And I just smiled as big as I possibly could and said "Hell Yea!!"
In conclusion.. .F THEM! :)
A lot of people don't realize that, so their ignorance or denial may get the best of them.
You know at one point in time, 13 was the age to get married and pregnant. Social standards will change with each generation. So don't worry girl, there will ALWAYS be someone who doesn't think what your doing is right. As long as you are a good mother and keep your head on straight you will be fine!
I am 22 years old, white/mexican, not married but engaged to my love of 3 years. When I told people I was pregnant, the first thing they said was "Are you happy" with a frown on their faces. And I just smiled as big as I possibly could and said "Hell Yea!!"
In conclusion.. .F THEM! :)
I found out I was pregnant with my first right before my 16th birthday. I got a job at 16. I buckled down on my high school. Graduated a year early. Started college & graduated. My baby is now 6 & we have an amazing life. You can do it! & don't you let anyone tell you other wise! Good luck in your pregnancy & you & your little ones life together ♥
I am 18 && I understand how your feeling! People look && not only do they bc im colored they look bc my fiance is white! Every where we go white people look at us as if we are doing something wrong. My step daddy is white && has been in my life since I was like 7 years old! && its sad to say that people will look && say rude things! && the fact that im pregnant dose not make it any better! Keep your head up girl && knw that your not alone! Good luck on your pregnancy!
I can't attest to anything from personal experience because I'm still pregnant with my first, but I was raised by a teen mom - I can tell you that as long as you don't give up on your child, you're already a better mom than many. My mom is not only my bestfriend, but an awesome fill in mommy for most of my friends. Her age had nothing to do with her being such a kick *** momma :-) I'm sorry you get judged for your skin color, people are truly ignorant in that respect...
thats exactly what I am going to do , alot say " you'll never make it in life " . smh I can't wait to see the look on they face when I do make it .
I completely agree with all the comments that had been said ....
I just encourage you too keep going too school && ignore these people who try pulling you down with them ... im also a teen mom , && im blessed , God had me finish school early then bless me too start my own family ... you can prove these people wrong ONLY if you want too ... I know you can do it (:
I just encourage you too keep going too school && ignore these people who try pulling you down with them ... im also a teen mom , && im blessed , God had me finish school early then bless me too start my own family ... you can prove these people wrong ONLY if you want too ... I know you can do it (:
I'm not a teen mom since I'm 21, but I've been told by everyone even my mom I look 16, and now that I'm pregnant to people I'm sure I look 16 and pregnant. So I can understand the dirty looks from people and the staring because it happens to me all the time and its annoying. I just want to scream YES IM PREGNANT, YES I LOOK YOUNG, GET OVER IT! Ha.
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@tabwhorton thank you ! and yeas you are right about EVERYTHING you said , especially the last part !
@tabwhorton thank you ! and yeas you are right about EVERYTHING you said , especially the last part !
As long as you are a good mother to your child then thats all that matters. I am not a teen mom, i had my 1st at 19, and am now 22 about to have my 2nd in 3 days, and i have a 4 yr old step daughter. Bejng a parent is hard, no matter what age you are. There are things you arent taught about when it comes to childten, and every pregnancy and child and situation is different. And all you can do is be the best parent you can be. There are alot of moms out there that are teens and that dont care about their children, but that is not the case for every teen mom. I know lots of very young moms that are alot better parents than older moms. So as long as you know you are doing whats best for your child, then thats all that matters. And btw, race or color has nothing to do with parenting, so the people who are saying you are a bad parent because you are black are racist a**holes
@julien I respect you for that , you're RIGHT they do think just bc we are teens that all we do is smoke drink and party . I never really smoked , u took one puff of weed one day and hated it , NEVER did it again , seen how adults act when they get drunk I don't wanna end up like that so I never drank or even tried ut , I don't go to parties bc im just not a party type of girl. so yes ! screw them ! you go girl !
I agree I'm 17 and people don't have to say anything just the way they look at me is so rude sometimes I hate it they don't know anything about us and they just think we're gonna be some " dumb kid whose gonna live off welfare the rest of there lives or our parents are gonna raise our children because we're drugys & party freaks " umm no i don't drink or party or smoke no screw you i actually work full time do independent studys I'm getting married in sept. My bf is in college to become a registered nurse my life ain't over if anything it just got really started . Don't let it get too you as long as we & our close support honestly know we're on the rite path for ourselves & our child we will be more than fine !
thank you for the support yall ,I know in ny heart I WILL be the absolute best for my child so they can have a bright future just like their mother . best of luck with you and your little ones ♡♡♥
There is nothing wrong with being a young mum, I found out while only 17 and it is so scary to think I will have to raise a baby, but do I have doubts about coping? No way. As long as you know in ur heart you can give this baby what it needs dont worry about anyone else. You will be great hun :-)
I don't believe that age is a factor in being a good mother. Your heart and head are and selflessness is what matters. I've seen many of all ages that were not so great but yet get applauded due to age, not right. People will talk and rude comment due to ignorance but don't let no one get you down. Just be the best mom you can be and deal with things as they come. Best wishes hun
I'm a teen mom, and I have support from my family & my boyfriend. His aunty was just saying how we're too young, my boyfriend works 40+hours a week, and I stay home and clean. It's no walk in the park for any mother, no matter what it's hard, regardless of how old you are. I'm planning on going to night school and then go to community college then go to college after that, my mother in law already offered to watch my baby, which I don't want her to, but it will only be for 3 hrs and two days a week.
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