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telling my grandmother the big newss ..

im 14w5d amd still haven't told my grandmother the news . she very religious to certain thing like this . im pretty sure she already knows even thou Im not showing . she has this dream every time someone close to her gets pregnant , but the dream doesnt reveal doesn't reveal who the person is . so one Sunday she came by my church that I go to with my mother  after her church service was over and she sat in the back till our church was over , soon after church she came to me and told me about the dream and she said " I hope it isn't you,  is it ? " I didnt say no but I kinda just brushed the question off bc I didnt officially know yet. then she asked me about it again like a week or two later , I just told her that I was going to write her letter.  its been months since I told her that . im afraid to let my dads side of the family know . he passed away , so its like im living in his shadow , they expect me to be perfect . nothing is ever good enough fot them , so letting them know im pregnant would really just top it off , plus everyone knows my grandmother favored my father out of all her 7kids , they were next door neighbors , talked to each other about everything , she also favors me my brother and sister , which makes it tougher . shes on my side about everything , always helps me even when I dont ask , shes always supporting me and just so much more like im one of her own , she seems so proud to call me her granddaughter .. my whole family is very well known out here , my moms side and dads side , my dad was also a decan in the church . to everyone im" baby becca " so im afraid of what ppl wll say and think of me once they see that i am pregnant at 16.. BUT MOST OF ALL  , OUT OF EVERYONE IN THE WORLD. . I want to just tell my grandma , the others can find out on their own , I want her to here it from me before someone else tells her. . can someone give me any ideas ??? please ..
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Thanks how I won my dad over:) good luck
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thanks so much ladies , im thinking about handing her my ultrasound picture of the baby.
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Even if you get the reaction you want I can tell you from experience something she says will make you feel upset or like a disappointment but after the baby comes and you see how much she loves him / her you realize that how people reacted to you being pregnant is not the only feeling they have towards you or the baby
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im just so nervous to how she woukd react ..
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You should tell her, in person. Tell her how scared you are, of letting her and the family down. I thought my mom would have been upset, and we werent really close before but when i found out, i only wanted to tell her. Your grandma sounds very wise, Im sure she had a baby young as well.
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I know how you feel and I would just be honest and prepare to explain how you are gonna be able to take care of this baby so she is reassured that you and the baby have a future. I realized that when I told my family it was not that they were mad or disappointed but concerned about my health and future and also about the future I would provide for my son. Hopefully this helps
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