telling your family you're expecting, especially when they don't want you to be!

[mitzileigh]

My mother thinks we have enough kids and do not need another. She is not going to be very happy when she funds out i'm expecting. My dh family won't really mind either way, but will definitely try to tell us how to handle the kids and the new baby... (very nosey and controlling people). Any suggestions on how and when to tel them? Im just about 7 Weeks. I thought about taking an ultrasound pic, when we get that far and sending out to my mom by mail for her bday in June...lol (she's only lives 3 miles from me :))

[mitzileigh]

Thanks everyone! I feel a little better. I'm liking the u/s pic in the mail more and more, however i'm already starting to show, and i'm only 7 Weeks! I hope I can hide it that long. Cause the dreaded "are you pregnant?" Q, will not be fun to answer....
I'm ok with the family not knowing, but its getting harder to keep it from my girlfriends!

[DNP47]

OMG this is my life!! My grandma is so good with my two kids, but my brother and his 5 kids are living with her right now. She is so fed up with them she constantly tells me, everyday, that I dont need any more kids. She is so against me having another one its crazy. I am 12 weeks today and still havent told her, she scares me lol. I am also having tons of complications with this pregnancy so I am not telling anyone besides my husband, my mom and his mom. But I would totally tell grandma if she would stop telling me how much she is against it.

Right now I am working on knitting her a blanket for mothers day, when her mom passed away (my great grandma) she gave me all of her knitting supplies. So I am making her the blanket from her moms actual stuff, and I am hoping that she likes it and will take the news a little bit better.

I didnt show at all until around 20 weeks with my last two kids, but I am already sticking out at 12 weeks, so I am avoiding her like the plague.

[mommyinapril202012]

I am 40 weeks my family felt the same way my dad found out at 7 months and one of my brothers just found out the other day.  I hid it pretty well but for the same reasons you have I didn't tell them.  Its pointless if they are not going to be supportive and why should you let them stress you out especially early in the pregnancy, you don't need that.  

[trying43]

I wouldn't say anything until you start showing then let them figure it out.  Then if they complain about you not telling them and they start running their mouths simply say that's why I didn't tell u! Lol  When we got pg with #3 my side of the family thought we were too old for another baby(37) so I heard a lot of trash talking too. I just ignored it mostly and enjoyed my pregnancy.  Good luck.

[farO_jan]

I say enjoy your pregnancy and let them find out lol If they won't like you to be pregnant again then there is no need in telling them. And Congrats!!!

[Heatherm4]

Congrats by the way!! :)

[Heatherm4]

I'd do that same thing too. I found out I was pregnant on my birthday- 4 days before my son's first birthday. I didn't think people would say stuff to my face but I was thinking...wow, I can just imagine what they'll say. We had our ultrasound done the week before xmas and gave out the pic in our cards we gave out to family. It worked out well and didn't get any bad reactions.
Who cares what other people think though, it's not their life, it's yours. Unless they still support you financially...they shouldn't have a say.

[mrsreeder2be]

LOL send them all by mail!!! Then you don't have to listen to the nagging face to face!! LOL. I waited till I was 12 weeks to tell everyone.