they just dont understand

[bb421]

So I used to be the party girl. Out every weekend n sometimes during the week. Now I'll go out every now n then with my friends to play pool or whatever but I'm so tired lately. I'm almost 30 weeks n they don't seem to understand that I'm tired! I don't always wanna go out n stand around n whatever. Then they get mad at me when I say I don't wanna go. Idk what to do to make them understand....

[msdeleon08]

You shouldn't worry much on what your friends say. your baby should always come first.

[RockRose]

This is a huge twist.

Of course, if these are guys leaving their women and kids behind,  they just don't "get it" that you,  too,  are being left behind.

You need to find friends who are women.  Your boyfriend and his guy friends don't seem to see the need to socialize with their women and kids.  You will need that, in the future,  because as you say,  they certainly don't "get it".  

[bb421]

It just ***** cause these are the only friends I have left. They have kids too...but they are guys so the kids are with the mom so they just don't get it. Idk it just *****. Tonight I sent them out without me...including my bf. My roommates moved out tonight n I just feel like sitting here n thinking by myself. I've been kinda down lately n it just *****. Idk what to do anymore...

[jones89]

I know how u feel girl I used to be a major partier I was out every night no joke the. I got pregnant and my "friends" left I realized who my friends were at that point cuz since I wasn't the partier anymore they stopped talking to me I'm sorry my priorities changed and going out isn't what is best and they don't understand it hang in there pretty soon u will have a baby to love on who loves u more than anything

[shelbyxox]

If they're like that now, I'd hate to see how they are when your baby is here. Sadly, they might not understand until they're having babies. You could try explaining it to them that pregnancy takes a toll on your body.

[jen_ortiz]

U might need some new friends sorry to say . Once u become a mother ur priorities will change . I used to be a party girl too but that was b4 I got pregnant with my first son !!!!! I honestly don't kno the last time I went out smh but I'd rather just be home with my family

[RockRose]

I agree with khawkins, your priorities are changing.

And I'm not sure it would be such a bad thing for you to say,  "I really love your company but I just don't want to go".  Because that's really the truth.

I wonder if you could do other things - lunch on a weekend,  etc.

As time passes,  your friends will become other women with young children and the activities they want to do together will be more in line with what you are interested in!

[khawkins]

There is nothing that you should have to do to make them understand. You are going to be a mom, therefore your priorities change. If your friends can't see that then something is wrong.