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4020799 tn?1355825570

update...

He came home last night and told me he loves me.... when i asked him this morning if hed made any decisions he said "im here arent i" ive told him i dont want him to be here out of any sense of obligation, only if he really wants to be. I dont want to be in a relationship if he doesnt want to be here and i dont want to be together just for the sake of the baby and end up resenting each other...... its still very early days and im concentrating on the fact that our baby is due in 7 days.
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4368956 tn?1357406071
Gobrandiranger I used to do the same thing I used to try talking to him to show he was wrong and he would blow up on me like crazy. Now I let him punish himself. Lol

Emmaftm do you still want to be with him? I know when your been with someone for along time its hard not to talk to him. So dont punish yourself text him when u want tell him you miss him. Anamosity hurts both of you trust me!
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I do the exact same, it totally works, don't fuel the fire with more fire :)
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4372583 tn?1358902146
@searra this method works every time, even when he's mad about work or just in a generally crap mood!!! I thought I was the only one that did that lol

I used to get aggravated at him and things would escalate quickly, until I finally saw a woman do this with her 6 year old son. He completely stopped his tantrum!!

Funny how most men are still kids are heart lmao
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4020799 tn?1355825570
Ive not said anything else and ive pretty much stayed out of the way today, i havent text him unless hes text me. Its hard when uve been together for 12 years n live together to try stop urself talking to someone but he has made all the effort today and ill be making sure hes the one that carries on being the one doin the hard work, im not putting my heart on the line anymore. My little girl and my dogs come first
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4368956 tn?1357406071
When my huby gets pissy with me I stay quite and act really nice . I give him space and that makes him feel bad and he apoligizes. Try it for me it works really well.
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2863077 tn?1436670789
Yea, don't keep asking because guys get annoyed easily.  Just give it time and watch his attitude.  You can tell a lot by just watching mens attitudes.  I hope everything works out for the best because your baby and you as well deserves it.  Good luck!
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Most guys dont know how to express their feelings. If he said it then he wants to be there. Dont keep asking him the same question over and over again. It will eventually drive him away. Trust me been there done that.
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