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[anw2013]

Hey...sorry i have to vent some how and this seems the only way i can cause no one else Will listen...any way so i couldn't sleep last night i am 9 weeks and haven't been able to sleep for a few days now...but any way my boyfriend went the living room with his son that is 2 trying to rock him to sleep well he fell asleep as well...needless to say he left his cell in the bedroom...i never would go through his phone for anything i trusted him 100% until bout a month ago..he started acting funny and had less to do with me...something kept telling to just look at the messages between him and his x wife...so i do so there was messages them saying they loved each other and missed each other....and talking about working it out for their son...what about me he has been lying and saying he loves me and i am carrying his child..i think i am just gonna tell him its over for good and he needs to make that family work...or what should i do??

[marajean21]

I've had my ex message me saying he missed me and loved me and although I did miss him, I told him it was inappropriate to talk that way because he was with someone else and he should at least end one relationship before trying to jump into another. He kept saying he was planning to leave and blah blah blah..just too many excuses. Whether he's just saying that to keep the peace of not, he's playing games with one of you and it's not fair to you at all. He should take himself out of everything until he has his feelings figured out, but that's not always the case. You shouldn't feel guilty about reading through his messages. I always have an open policy where I can look at anything on my guys phone at any time I please, but he can also do the same. It doesn't mean I constantly look, just knowing it's an option is usually good enough. The few times I did look it was his sister discouraging our relationship and the other was to read the full thread of what he accidentally sent me one night. He's read mine and I'm sure he got upset about a couple things someone else has said, but he never said anything because he knows I cannot control what they say and sees my responses are nothing to lead a guy on and I always say I'm happy with who I found so please don't talk like that or ask that of me. Even though some things are personal, I leave this account open to him to view as well as Facebook. We have both had pretty messed up relationships and I think leaving our phones around help build trust if anything because it shows there's nothing to hide. If your guy got mad about you looking, it's him trying to give you a guilt trip. There shouldn't have been anything to hide and get upset about in the first place. Personally I'd leave and talk later. There's no excuse for what he said to her. But if you decided to stay and let him bring it up himself, that'd just be torture on your end wondering when and if he's ever going to decide to give you the boot. And if he never does, it'd probably have you wondering if he's still talking like that or living a double life. None of that seems very fair

[crazycurious11]

Good luck. Your super strong for leaving. What he's doing is not right and you deserve better

[anw2013]

Thanks...yeah i plan on talking to him when he gets back i already have my stuff packed...well the things i need any way...thanks ladies

[meccah24]

P.s if hes mad about you checking his phone thats just him pulling a ole okey doke an gettin the heat off him an on to you.dont fall for it lol.

[cheekymeaky]

I would talk to him. You had reason to go through his phone feelong the way u did. If you brush it under the carpet things will blow up eventually. I would talk to him and see what he wants. Its unfair for you both to stay together when someone isnt happen. I wish you all the luck and if it comes to it i am sure you will be strong enough cope alone. Just remember to not stress.. please talk

[meccah24]

If that was my hubs he would be on the curb with his things.its so selfish of him to plot his future with his x while your preggers an dreaming of yours together.why not be honest an say im confused,maybe we rushed things,ive been talkin to my x,whatever it is he shoulda been honest.girl only you know whats best for you,all im saying is tell him you know an go from there. Good luck mama.

[brit0585]

He needs to tell you himself. You can't force it out of him and for the sake of you and your baby you need to try and be as little stressed as possible. You could always just move out and see what he says. But he will be even more upset if he knows you went thru his phone...