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ok, so i'm sure practically everyone *myspace*'s....well, fiance turned his private around v-day....and deleted me and a couple of "our" friends....well whatever, i dont care....well last week, he added me, and he flips through my profile etc.....
and i've never really messed with the "relationship" status part, so both of mine say single(i have one for friends etc, and a "cover" profile for my stepsons mom, don't ask lol).....well, i had changed it to divorced when i left him in march, and never changed it back....and he's one of those guys who won't talk about anything, or how he's upset unless he's mad(not in a hurtful way, he was just raised men arent sensitive-i've seen it 1st hand w/his family).....well, it's been stuck on divorced, and now his extended message says if your single i'm single...and his mood says rejected....so i kinda felt bad, it's really wierd when HE make's a "statement" like that lol.....so i changed it back to in a relationship...then i was like, wait i'm not changing my **** b/c your feeling all sorry about something and rather than address it, you're cruising my profile and making a big deal of nothing....and i wrote that in a message to him along with I AM DIVORCED!!!!!!!! lol...idk i didnt mean to be such a B about it, but jeez, he had his profile locked for all that time, and now he's upset mine says divorced....oh btw-i changed it earlier to in a relationship, but then was like ya well freak, i AM divorced....so i put it back to divorced lol....his says single now, but i think he just figured how to change it, cos i did his profile, and i put in a relationship/proud parent on it......so i'm like ok, my profile was already open, but now that you're a "friend" you're gonna complain? aghhh i almost removed him and made mine private, but figure oh well if he's FINALLY showing emotions lol, i'll step back and let him!
and i've never really messed with the "relationship" status part, so both of mine say single(i have one for friends etc, and a "cover" profile for my stepsons mom, don't ask lol).....well, i had changed it to divorced when i left him in march, and never changed it back....and he's one of those guys who won't talk about anything, or how he's upset unless he's mad(not in a hurtful way, he was just raised men arent sensitive-i've seen it 1st hand w/his family).....well, it's been stuck on divorced, and now his extended message says if your single i'm single...and his mood says rejected....so i kinda felt bad, it's really wierd when HE make's a "statement" like that lol.....so i changed it back to in a relationship...then i was like, wait i'm not changing my **** b/c your feeling all sorry about something and rather than address it, you're cruising my profile and making a big deal of nothing....and i wrote that in a message to him along with I AM DIVORCED!!!!!!!! lol...idk i didnt mean to be such a B about it, but jeez, he had his profile locked for all that time, and now he's upset mine says divorced....oh btw-i changed it earlier to in a relationship, but then was like ya well freak, i AM divorced....so i put it back to divorced lol....his says single now, but i think he just figured how to change it, cos i did his profile, and i put in a relationship/proud parent on it......so i'm like ok, my profile was already open, but now that you're a "friend" you're gonna complain? aghhh i almost removed him and made mine private, but figure oh well if he's FINALLY showing emotions lol, i'll step back and let him!
Jesselee~ yep, I know all of DH's pw also. he has access to mine, all he's gotta do is ask. I feel if there's nothing to hide, then why not share our pw's? you know?
It was a stipulation of mine to begin trusting him again. I had shut down his email addy and emailed Myspace to have them shut down his acct. they haven't but he also forgot the PW. basically I told him if he wanted me to trust him at all I wanted his PW to his email, myspace, and anything else, including Bank accts. (we use eachothers card's all the time anyways and share PIN #'s) And anytime he's acted mad about me having them, I give him my PW right there and he always forgets.. but I've got nothing to hide as I said.
And LOLA~ He tried to tell me I was reading too much into it too, til I SHOWED him the emails where he wanted to hook up w/the girl on his 21's bday using the excuse he was hanging with guys from work.. LUCKILY he never went and that's the MAJOR reason we're still together... he's still afraid I'll leave after TJ is born because I told him I wouldn't deal with this being pregnant, and that i'd decide afterward... he's tried hard to redeem himself.
I'm surprised you and Jesse are older than me... it took 2 yrs of marriage for my man to grow up any.. and he still is growing up. but finally has a full time job, benefits, and our own apartment! (since last april)... MEN... UGH
It was a stipulation of mine to begin trusting him again. I had shut down his email addy and emailed Myspace to have them shut down his acct. they haven't but he also forgot the PW. basically I told him if he wanted me to trust him at all I wanted his PW to his email, myspace, and anything else, including Bank accts. (we use eachothers card's all the time anyways and share PIN #'s) And anytime he's acted mad about me having them, I give him my PW right there and he always forgets.. but I've got nothing to hide as I said.
And LOLA~ He tried to tell me I was reading too much into it too, til I SHOWED him the emails where he wanted to hook up w/the girl on his 21's bday using the excuse he was hanging with guys from work.. LUCKILY he never went and that's the MAJOR reason we're still together... he's still afraid I'll leave after TJ is born because I told him I wouldn't deal with this being pregnant, and that i'd decide afterward... he's tried hard to redeem himself.
I'm surprised you and Jesse are older than me... it took 2 yrs of marriage for my man to grow up any.. and he still is growing up. but finally has a full time job, benefits, and our own apartment! (since last april)... MEN... UGH
Now i know why my DH doesnt allow me to have a myspace page. That site always gets people to into trouble nothing good comes from it and i think that Tom guy who invented it should be shot or something!! My lil cousin had to be sent off to a private school cus she was hooking up guys on there and running away and stuff she's 14!! did i say that 14!! On the other hand if yall's men are lying to u about this stuff then tell them to hit the road thats just not right at all!!
you are my new friend! that's exactly what he'd say! that i read to much into it! so finally i just told him well if you add me i won't have to read jack, it'll be right there!
lol.....i'm sry you're going through it also.....but someone knows what i mean lol
lol.....i'm sry you're going through it also.....but someone knows what i mean lol
i want u to know how happy i am to see this post.it stinks u have to be dealing wit this but to know i am not the only one makes me feel soo much better..my boyfriend has hadme off his page and his page on private for months now because i told him i didnt think he needed to be so flirty with his female friends..we fight bout it constantly..just today we went at it and he tells me i take too much into it but i feel like i am a huge part of his life and now even carrying his child and i have every right to be on his page and it drives me insane that he just doesnt get it!!!
well, i've already search for different profiles for him.....and he used to have singles profiles, but as predictable as he is, i knew the user name and pw for them, and closed them all lol...but they were old, and he had recieved mail but the last logins were like june of last year, when we split up for like a month or so.....and he never contacted anyone....oh and he doesnt know it, but i know his myspace pw lol.....but if i let on that i know, he'll change it....and he knows mine also, actually he knows ALL of mine, he just doesnt realize it!!!
so yea since he's offshore, i pick through it lol, and he talks to one girl, and that's his stepsister, and those emails are all about drama she has in HS with friends, and her mom(his dad's g/f), her brother etc.....and i'm the kind of person who can read between the lines, and there's nothing there....an email i did find today, however.....he is telling his BEST FRIEND(whom i NEVER talk to), how excited he is about the baby, and that he said he only wanted the 2 he has, but now that it's a definite thing, he's hoping for a boy, and that all this works out(other non-myspace issues we have lol).....he told his friend he def doesnt wanna get married for a long time if at all(which i already know), but his friend is about to have a baby, and it's really funny reading these messages where they go back and forth about the "wow" of expectancy(he was only around DD's mom for 4 mos, and DS's mom moved out literally 2 weeks after finding out, and didnt move back in till DS was born)......and this is his friends' 1st baby(that i can remember).....so i think i'm fine with it lol
so yea since he's offshore, i pick through it lol, and he talks to one girl, and that's his stepsister, and those emails are all about drama she has in HS with friends, and her mom(his dad's g/f), her brother etc.....and i'm the kind of person who can read between the lines, and there's nothing there....an email i did find today, however.....he is telling his BEST FRIEND(whom i NEVER talk to), how excited he is about the baby, and that he said he only wanted the 2 he has, but now that it's a definite thing, he's hoping for a boy, and that all this works out(other non-myspace issues we have lol).....he told his friend he def doesnt wanna get married for a long time if at all(which i already know), but his friend is about to have a baby, and it's really funny reading these messages where they go back and forth about the "wow" of expectancy(he was only around DD's mom for 4 mos, and DS's mom moved out literally 2 weeks after finding out, and didnt move back in till DS was born)......and this is his friends' 1st baby(that i can remember).....so i think i'm fine with it lol
I gotta say, Myspace is how I found out my guy was unfaithful. He had the "cover" page he never used and had me as a friend on. He also had a new one (I happened to type in the wrong letter when logging in for mine and up popped "chrgs21lt"... His fave team is chargers #21 lt. ) I went to the search and found his page saying he was SINGLE and looking for girls. I called him at work and said "you F***ed up"... he said no I didn't, I just forgot to change it.
So I went to the email provider and clicked forgot password, then answered the security questions. (I know SO much about him and he's predictible) only to get into the email and find out he'd been talking about wanting to hook up w/a girl he met while at work...
it SUCKED. and its' been SO hard to forgive him. I found all this crud out 4 days before my BFP. I still have issues with forgiving him, but by the time I found the emails, they'd cut contact by phone AND email for about a month.. and I called her to be sure. his cell was cut off by that time and we never got it back on. also it turned out she had 2 kids and he was griping about me wanting 1.
So... I don't like myspace too much and still check up on him with random searches of his name sometimes to be sure he's not still using his myspace as a cover.
So I went to the email provider and clicked forgot password, then answered the security questions. (I know SO much about him and he's predictible) only to get into the email and find out he'd been talking about wanting to hook up w/a girl he met while at work...
it SUCKED. and its' been SO hard to forgive him. I found all this crud out 4 days before my BFP. I still have issues with forgiving him, but by the time I found the emails, they'd cut contact by phone AND email for about a month.. and I called her to be sure. his cell was cut off by that time and we never got it back on. also it turned out she had 2 kids and he was griping about me wanting 1.
So... I don't like myspace too much and still check up on him with random searches of his name sometimes to be sure he's not still using his myspace as a cover.
we don't delete them, b/c they are easier to use especially since i have alot of friends in iraq, and friends who live overseas with their hubs...and fiance still has tons of friends in navy....
he said the deleting me was an accident, he added me right back....and we have really only had one problem, where an "alleged" friend of mine, messaged him with all kinds of bs....lucky me it took only 2 short calls between us, for him torealize the stuff she was saying, couldnt be true.....oh and lol, to keep friends and strangers from contacting people off of my page, i have found a code that does not show my friends or comments, except only to me!
and my blogs are set to subscribers only, and pics are private....basically the only thing you can do on my page is click stuff to find it's not available lol, and if you're not a friend you cannot message me...and i've got like 30 people on block lol, and if you want to add me as a friend, you have to know my "1st love's" last name....hehe.....and he's deceased, so you can't go ask him, not that anyone knows he was my first love lol!
he said he's not too worried about it.....he was just picking b/c i raised such heck when he made his profile private....that he knows i'm divorced(duh lol), so *strangely*, i went to his profile just to see(why idk yet!), and he's changed it to married lol.....he actually only has 10 friends, and i know every single one of them but 1 guy, and that's cos he left the navy before i even met chris.....and he knows "some" of my friends, but b/c they're so widespread locale wise, and when he asks i show him my stuff lol.....none of my exes start stuff, actually my 1st hub is one of my BEST friends and DF isnt too comfy with that, but knows that due to certain circumstances that EXH is one person i'll never not talk to just cos he asked....the chick that emailed him said i married this one guy, and this could be his baby.....all it took was an email from ole boys fiance, as well as me showing him the guys page, to prove this could not be his kid!!! the guy got back from iraq the 1st of march, and was in MI for 3 weeks lol.....so yea we cleared it up....
i guess i was just surprised that "all of a sudden" my fiance cares about stuff.....lol
he said the deleting me was an accident, he added me right back....and we have really only had one problem, where an "alleged" friend of mine, messaged him with all kinds of bs....lucky me it took only 2 short calls between us, for him torealize the stuff she was saying, couldnt be true.....oh and lol, to keep friends and strangers from contacting people off of my page, i have found a code that does not show my friends or comments, except only to me!
and my blogs are set to subscribers only, and pics are private....basically the only thing you can do on my page is click stuff to find it's not available lol, and if you're not a friend you cannot message me...and i've got like 30 people on block lol, and if you want to add me as a friend, you have to know my "1st love's" last name....hehe.....and he's deceased, so you can't go ask him, not that anyone knows he was my first love lol!
he said he's not too worried about it.....he was just picking b/c i raised such heck when he made his profile private....that he knows i'm divorced(duh lol), so *strangely*, i went to his profile just to see(why idk yet!), and he's changed it to married lol.....he actually only has 10 friends, and i know every single one of them but 1 guy, and that's cos he left the navy before i even met chris.....and he knows "some" of my friends, but b/c they're so widespread locale wise, and when he asks i show him my stuff lol.....none of my exes start stuff, actually my 1st hub is one of my BEST friends and DF isnt too comfy with that, but knows that due to certain circumstances that EXH is one person i'll never not talk to just cos he asked....the chick that emailed him said i married this one guy, and this could be his baby.....all it took was an email from ole boys fiance, as well as me showing him the guys page, to prove this could not be his kid!!! the guy got back from iraq the 1st of march, and was in MI for 3 weeks lol.....so yea we cleared it up....
i guess i was just surprised that "all of a sudden" my fiance cares about stuff.....lol
the only problems dh and i ever had from our myspaces or facebooks was exes...or the random stupid little girls or boys who don't understand what "married and expecting" mean. i don't get why people get so upset over a website. i can see if he's exchanging naughty emails and pics with other girls but sheesh....men.
This is exactly why my fiance and I don't have myspace pages. It's too much chaos. I've seen relationships crash and burn from it. Can you both just delete your pages and this way you don't have to worry about things like this?
I'm confused---he deleted you and made it private while you were still together??????? There is NO WAY in HE!! that I would be ok if my husband did that.
I have delated quite a few people off my facebook and learned a very big lesson. I found out that my coworkers were running to my boss with everything it said trying to get him to take it the wrong way if you know what i mean, he told me i couldn't trust any of them, he knows they are trying to cause trouble (this after he called me yelling and screaming-i'm on sick leave) I also delated my future sil because everything I would say to someone she would pick it apart (gof forbid an ice cap has 14 grams of fat NOT 20 like i told a friend who was on a diet drinking 3 a day)--she has hardly come to the house or spoke to me since
I have delated quite a few people off my facebook and learned a very big lesson. I found out that my coworkers were running to my boss with everything it said trying to get him to take it the wrong way if you know what i mean, he told me i couldn't trust any of them, he knows they are trying to cause trouble (this after he called me yelling and screaming-i'm on sick leave) I also delated my future sil because everything I would say to someone she would pick it apart (gof forbid an ice cap has 14 grams of fat NOT 20 like i told a friend who was on a diet drinking 3 a day)--she has hardly come to the house or spoke to me since
lol, i found an icon that says "relax b***** it's just myspace"....i think i need to put it on my header lol
i have the same issue... i too am divorced, so thats what it says although ive been with FH for 3 years...there was a point where i changed it to single and made it private and created H*LL with his family. his little sister (16) went around telling ppl we weren't together, despite that we live together and what not...sometimes myspace is a pain in my big fat a**! its only myspace for peet's sake!!!
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