venting.

[gingery_person]

So I'm 36 weeks pregnant, the father and I haven't been together for the last 8 weeks and it had gotten to the point where every time I try to talk to him about anything he guilts me about how we aren't a family and how I chose myself over what's best for our daughter. But he wasn't contributing, was in and out of jobs and has been out of a job four months now, hasn't contributed a dime to the crib or anything I have gotten her and yet can afford to smoke pot. I don't understand how his guilt tripping is working... Its not like I've stopped letting him come to the doctors appointments and I plan on giving him half costody. Why do I feel so guilty? :(

[tracetrace]

I feel for you.me n mines are the same. The time is so close and we can't see eye to eye. But maybe when the baby is actually here things will change. Keep your ur head up

[gingery_person]

He seems to just want the idea of a kid, I don't think he's ready for the actual responsibilities. And yes I do want the family with parents that get along but that doesn't seem to be an option. I want someone I can rely on

[phiaaa]

If he wants to be a part of the babies life.. I don't see a problem but at least contribute and help out ! You know.. If he goes to the baby appts that's good at least he wants to be there.

[phiaaa]

I'm due in 13 days.. you'd think he'd open his eyes up and see the big picture... He bought a kid into this world... so he should be able to drop his bad habits and spend wisely.. we were supposed to move into a place together... but no its gonna be me and him plus our son cramped up in one bedroom at his mother's house....

[ericatoday]

Maybe because you still care about him. Or because deep down everyone wants a happy little family. You want your baby to grow up with a mom and dad who love each other but that isn't always how it works out. Don't feel guilty especially if you know you're doing right by your child.

[phiaaa]

I can totally relate to this post... but the difference is my bf works... A lot day and night... makes 12 an hr.. and brings home good checks... yet he hasn't got the baby anything... I did buy the baby stuff though and make him pay half of what I paid for it... because I felt it should be both of us putting money into OUR child.. He has no problem spending hundreds of bucks a month on weed... yet can't buy his own son something... A toy... A piece of clothes... A blanket... nothing.. oh and we're still together... I told him I'd take him for child support if he doesn't man up and he threatened to take full custody of him... yet the court wouldn't ever give the child to someone who has drugs in their system... and most the time the baby goes to the mom anyway. It's so hard to leave him too... he's all I've got... I don't have family or friends to turn too..

[gingery_person]

:(