wanna scream

[thickm]

my husband is so on my nerves and being that we are going through all of this with my pregnancy he tells me he dont think its gonna work! AGHHHH......so heres the story! as some of you know i was in the hospital wed til monday leaking amniotic fluid, well everyday we thought we were gonna go home and everyday something else happened! it was frustrating but honestly at the time i would of stayed their forever for my son sake! well that sunday we just knew we were going home but nope wbc showed infection so dr wanted me on stronger meds! while the dr is talking to me my hubby says cant she go home and take pills, i wanna go home so natuarly i told him to go i didnt need him there, my priority was my son and me! then monday i get discharged and he asked me when i was going back to work (he goes to school and i work) i felt so used! anyhow now that i am on bedrest this ****** leaves me here all alone all the time! i have ate a sandwich all day bout 1..........and then when i say something he leaves again!

[LosingMyMindInGA]

Yeah my Dh pulls that "how come you can tell complete strangers your feelings but you can't tell me?"  Uhm well becuase your a big dumb idiot and you don't listen, you get p i ss ed or tell me my feelings are stupid or unfounded.  So uh yeah, I'll go wtih the strangers, thanks! :)

[SliverCheer]

I'm so sorry you are going through this :( It is a scary and stressfull situation for both of you I imagine, and the stress can cause unecassary arguments :(. Just try to talk to him and remind him you are scared and stressed to and that you both need to be there for each other at this time.

So it's a boy!? I hadn't heard yet! We are having a Girl, just had the u/s today!

[thickm]

lol he said i shouldnt been venting to people i dont know........blah blah blah! yall are my only friends HELLO

[LosingMyMindInGA]

You dh is a big fat bullheaded idiot.  And that's putting it nicely.  Men can be so dense!

[worrieddd612]

im sorry hun that really is completely ridiculous. i guess he's just stressedd out to the max about your baby and he's worried...men snap sometimes when they're feeling pressure or stress..i know we do too but geez! i think they have a period for sure. i bet he'll come around soon enough...and then you can give him a maxi pad and tell him its for the next time he freaks on you!!

[thickm]

dont get me wrong ladies this man was golden to me the first 2 days in the hospital but once the leaking slowed down he turned into my enemy!!!!

[thickm]

yes ma'm you understood me correctly! what i dont get is this man was sick for 6-8 months straight, i mean damn near dying and i cared for him 24/7 (maybe its the nurse in me) and even when i left for work i always made time to come and check on him inbetween patients!!
his text, yes text when i told him he i would never be like that with him and that we are different! "yea we are different, i ask for what i want.....if you keep acting the way you are and not being able to listen to the dr, i will never be able to forgive you for killing my child...how selfish are you??"then he text me later and said " i am neve gonna be good enough for you..im gonna call gordon (our preacher) and explain to him what you have said lately and what i have done lately for you and see if he thinks i am the one that needs to change and i am wrong! or maybe if he even thinks we have a chance!" HELLO HES THE PREACHER GRANTED BUT OUR MARRIAGE LIES IN OUR OUR HANDS NOT THE PREACHERS!

[smjmekg]

So let me get this straight...you were in the hospital, he's upset that you couldn't go home, even though you were staying in the hospital to help your son...and he's gone all day when you're on bed rest for your son, and he tells you your selfish for getting up to get yourself something to eat since you haven't had much, and then tells you he'll never forgive you if something happens to your son, when I assume you're up making something to eat while he's gone...hmmm...did I get that right, cause if I did...what an @$$!!! I'd B!TCH him up one side and down the other if he were my husband, but that's just me. I'm nice like that, lol. I'm sorry you're having to put up with this. He needs to realize the situation at hand, and why you were in the hospital, and why you're on bed rest. Sounds to me like he's almost jealous of your attention.

[worrieddd612]

im sorry hun thats frustrating! it sounds to me like he is the one being selfish. im sorry too that you had to go through that hospital stay. that would have been so scary but im glad everything seems like its gonna get better! i would have been the same way, i would have stayed in the hospital the rest of the pregnancy if i had to. he needs to realize that you are on BEDREST which means you're not supposed to be getting out of bed. if something were to happen, that might potentially cause it and so he should get his **** together and help you!

[thickm]

so i told him i would just do it myself, i couldnt be on bed rest with a 5 yr old and having to take care of me! he called me SELFISH and if something happened to our son he would never forgive me, WTF