what would be best??

[bethshahan]

Right now me and my boyfriend aare living in an apartment, in a not so good neighborhood. His parents have offered for us to move in with them until we save up some money to rent or even buy our own place, in a much better location. Me being 28 + 4 I wouldn't mind for NOW. I know its better to get out of there but I'm scared that when the baby comes his mom (the kind of women she is) is going to be telling us how to raise our daughter, telling us how to do things and such. Not that I wouldn't mind some help but I'd like to learn on my own, you know? And I'd also like to have ssome alone time with my new baby and my boyfriend. I'm scared we'll be there so much longer then planned.

[wishes2891]

If there's any way for you two to continue living on your own I say do that. While sometimes it can work out moving in with the parents probably 99 out of a 100 times it causes more stress in the relationship than needed. Adjusting to being a couple living on your own on top of adjusting to being new parents is hard enough. Add in living in someone else's home will make it so much more difficult. However if your place really truly isn't safe enough to stay in and his parents are your only option then you have to do what you jave to do. Just make sure to set boundaries and make sure you and your boyfriend are on the same page about how much say his mom has in your relationship and with the baby.

[bianmomma]

I wouldn't . Ive had to experience living with my husbands mom and then my parents ... living with in laws is a lot harder I think and I wouldn't do it ever again.. it was a little bit easier at my own parents house but still a hassle and well it is true about saving money . I lived in a bad neighborhood when we were on our own but as long as I kept to myself and minded my own I was fine and it felt a lit better than living with in laws or parents.

[kmommy2b]

Do not move in with parents.. trust me im doing it now and i want OUT

[Drewkichu]

I'm stuck in the same situation. My hubby's mother pretty much tricked us into moving in with her and now we're paying so much more for rent, she's very controlling, and she's stressing us out with her dramatic life. We've been stuck here for months and we're finally breaking free and moving back into our apartment on October 3rd. I refused to have my daughter in this environment and I'm 37w+1d right now. I wouldn't do it.

[lexseababymomma]

If you're not married consider getting a place that aids single moms. It's similar to government housing but it's not. They are houses and they charge cheap! Just as much as an apartment and you get to own it. Anyway, I wouldn't move in. I'd always feel uncomfortable to do anything. And I wouldn't wanna stay longer than expected and become a burden. Because truth of the matter is you'll become comfy and not save at all. That's the truth. You'll have the money for rent being spent on other things. Just look for some place else. Try government housing, or those places that help single moms, or... I don't know but I wouldn't move in. I know it saves you money but the hassle isn't worth it. If you don't want that from your mother in law. Don't open that door on yourself.