Dear Susan,
Alan may think he can flit from woman to woman with no consequence. He may have that little insight.
He may indeed have no inkling that his behavior hurt you. After all, HE doesn't feel things so deeply!
If you were to remain "friends" you'd be a-waiting, and he'd be away most of the time, unless he felt like it, and then he'd come back and then disappear again to her, breaking your heart once once more.
Otherwise, I think I've addressed your questions in this morning's post.
Sincerely,
Dr. P.
I think you are making this more than what it is. If you are so conflicted with your feelings of staying in Alan's life, than don't. There could be a million reasons for why he wants you there. He may like you as a person and enjoy talking to you, therefore, wants to stay in touch. He may want you as a booty call or back up in case his current relationship doesn't work. He may want to test the waters but still hold onto you for whatever reasons. I think Alan could answer your questions and frankly, if he's in a new relationship, I think you should just move on with your life without Alan. You're letting this consume you.
Wow! Move on I kione that is hard, I;'ve been there...time will heal. Moving on is hard it will consume every minute, thainking of someone you have feelings for...but time will help...good luck...I wish yoy the very best...sometimes life is not fair, but it is life and things will get better..