I hate to burst your bubble but God didn't and doesn't create a person as a homosexual. For people to say their born that way says that God has lied to us. IT IS A CHOICE, PERIOD
Dear Trisha,
I was confused about this too, until one day, about three decades ago, I was sitting with a young, man whose family was similarly concerned about his sexuality. I had spent several meetings exploring his background, hunting, without success, for factors that would have “turned him gay”. All of a sudden he looked at me in utter seriousness, and said something like “ Dr. P. please hear this. I knew I was gay from the time I was 3. My dad is heterosexual. He was the great football player [for a major college team]; I’m a good gay dancer. I love my family. They’re great people. They’re ok and so am I. It’s just how it is!”
And he was right. Homosexuality is largely a genetic condition, found everywhere and at all times through the history of our race. The whys and hows are being worked on by the geneticists, but the main point is now clear. Being gay is not a choice, for the vast majority of people. The only exceptions to this are odd situations, e.g. where females have hurt the boy enormously, so that he avoids them and seeks closeness with men. But even in these instances, we have to ask why men are the choice. There are so many people hurt by women, and only a small subset “become” homosexual.
I’d respect and nurture this boy, including his sexuality. As with my patient years ago, he might want to talk to a psychologist who specializes in sexuality, so that he could rule out any trauma in his history that would push him toward men, but that’s really optional. The main help he probably needs is to get counseling to help him grow up into the best version of HIS REAL SELF, whatever that is, very much including his sexuality.
No, with gay kids, you usually don’t get grandchildren. But even that is changing these days. I hope you and your family keep your minds and hearts open, to love and nurture and enjoy this young man. If you do, he’ll repay you all in kind.
Sincerely,
Dr. P.