Dear Curious,
People DO change, and at your age they can change quickly and without warning. They “blow hot and cold.” It can be very confusing. Young people can get scared; they can decide they’ve learned all they can; they can decide the other person just doesn’t feel right to them. Or they decide they have other priorities. It happens to everyone, and it’s nobody’s fault.
The confusion about this boy is heightened if he keeps popping up from time to time. It’s so easy to do on the internet. Your job is to ignore this. If he doesn’t want to be a boyfriend or even husband, move on!
As a practical matter, you need to be friends or girlfriends of new people. Then this present guy will fade into the background. So get out there and be present where people are. Get off the internet and near REAL HUMAN BEINGS. Then I predict you will quickly stop dreaming about this guy.
I read that you are just at the beginning of trying to understand love, sex, and so many other things. I think this is a good set of things to learn. It also implies that you’ll need to keep moving, experiencing new people, gaining and knowledge and strength. With these will come ability to meet people, even love them, and then move on if necessary.
Cordially,
Dr. P.
Hello Curious,
I am sorry to hear about your lost love. Our Caregivers Forum is geared more towards those that take care of others, like an ill child or an aging parent.
Please know that you are always welcome here. However I do think your questions maybe better answered in our Relationships Forum. I will request that your post be redirected for your benefit.
Best of Luck to You,
~Tuck