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So I met this guy on a dating site shortly after coming out of a brief relationship I left the dating site as in the most non big headed way I was overwhelmed but he kept messaging me on my social media, he became really good friend and we spoke of all sorts and text eachother 24/7. I really didn’t find him attractive at all but how similar we were shocked me we had the same sense of humour. We both agreed we connected so well and we were the same person. He had been single for six years which was a massive shock for me , he said he started to develop feelings and that he may be falling in love with me , we text about marriage kids all sorts I started to really like him one night we spent 5 hours on the phone to eachother!!! . If i didn’t reply to his texts he would send about 8 in a row until I did . I am going to Ibiza with my friends and he booked the exact same flight and hotel with his friends which shocked me a bit but at the time i thought wow he must like me ! I was nervous to meet him because I do modelling a lot of my social media is of my magazine shoots and I thought what If he does not fancy me in person but after four months of talking we met up and slept together after that it seemed it was a bit weird for a few days I don’t know why we both felt awkward . Then he said some weird things like he knows I used to text men same time as him (I did at the beginning as meeting on a dating site assumed he did the same) and I should go meet other men and he will still be my friend. So we had a bit of a falling out he said some nasty things like I looked like **** when he saw me and should make more of an effort I’m a sl.ut etc . After our fall out I did meet someone else for a drink on his advice , he quickly then came back onto me and asked me to meet him again and we both agreed to stop talking to other people until we had spent a weekend together , we then got back texting and calling loads and I mean 24/7. I met him a few weeks after again and spent weekend with him. After that weekend the following day I went to afternoon tea with my mum and he rang me constantly like show me who your with send me a picture I was like no it’s my mum and we got in a nasty fight . Day after that I went to a concert with my friends in London and he said he knew I’d run off to London as I’m a tramp and he called me vile names rang me screaming at me Saïd about me texting men and the drink I went on with that guy and im so untrustworthy he’d never be with someone like me - we agreed to cut ties I was in tears with his harsh words. The week after cutting ties he text me some small talk about me when we both go Ibiza same time and I caved and told him how much I missed him etc he kinda enjoyed it and said it’s a mature decision I don’t follow him on social media as I wouldn’t want to see it. That hurt me so much so I told him to just stop speaking to me. Week after that he sent me a picture of a film we watched together, I ignored it, week after that he sent me a text message at 2am but then deleted it before I got to read it so I messaged him back asking what he had sent as it bothered me and he never replied and that was three weeks ago I haven’t heard from him since . I’m devastated we spoke every second of the day it’s a major loss and void. My friends tell me his since back on dating sites which is tearing me in bits. Our connection was unreal! Any advice to get over this would be great!!!!
(I’ve since changed my flights to Ibiza to week after unbeknown to him he will still expect me to be out there same time in June) He is 8 years older than me . I’m 30
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Okay, wow.  That's a story.  Sorry you have gotten embroiled in this whole thing. You sound like a really sweet and sincere girl!  

Red flags everywhere.  I think if I were having an online romance with someone (texting and phone calls included . . . meaning it was all over phone and internet, and not where we actually dated face to face) and I made the decision to be vulnerable and sleep with someone and they said I was a ****, and looked bad or whatever the stars were for (some words can not be said on this site, they place stars there) . . .  I'd be out.  No thank you.  That is a person with some issues.  And the control thing and asking who you are with, very strange.  And that you wouldn't be allowed to text other men when you had not committed to each other, just met on a dating site, etc.  That is a wild overstep of his desire to control you.  No thank you.  Can you imagine that getting better?  Or would it get worse?  It would get worse.

He's an internet predator hon.  Ya, he's right back on that website because that is what he does.  He has been single for a long time for very good reason.  He's not a great catch.  He may even be a chameleon changing his story to please those he talks to.   https://www.huffpost.com/entry/risky-side-of-online-dating_b_8907058?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuYmluZy5jb20vc2VhcmNoP3E9ZGFuZ2VycytvZitvbmxpbmUrZGF0aW5nJmZvcm09RURHRUFSJnFzPVBGJmN2aWQ9ZGQxMjYwNWY5ZTg5NGI3N2JhMTEwMDQ5ZDkxY2VjMzcmY2M9VVMmc2V0bGFuZz1lbi1VUyZwbHZhcj0w&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAB9bDKVq0UfmhNVsYSailPctkXa2b0-we8Ws4Q99pO-r8XhVeOQ9uestZ1Qwg07Tao9omUcn_0Sf9B2Ol06FRXxBic3vL9uarU1HqShROh47rpXf_8Jzordr1TTt26dzIpKd0fLZmCeBG-utSlDB_hPZOjExXOGKdhngenxker1F

Long link, but it goes through the dangers of online dating.  

I am so glad you changed your travel plans.  I would void him.

You are super sweet and very articulate.  What about joining some things around where you live in which you can possibly meet some dating prospects?
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I think he was more of a fantasy than a reality, and the reality turned out to be a disappointment. Online he could shape himself to whatever you wanted to hear, and even in person it was so brief that he could fake it for a day or two. But he's into stalking someone on the net, and when he "wins" he moves on. You should make it a rule to date only people you meet in person from the first hello. Too easy to be gullible and manipulated, otherwise.
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