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Am I having dry orgasims!? I need to save my relationship!!

Hi I'm a 27yr old female and I don't believe I've ever had an orgasim. Sex has always felt great but still never reached that point of "getting off" I'm currently in a relationship with a man who turns me on more than I've ever been in my life and we have the greatest sex I have ever experienced! Yet because I don't orgasim he has been saying how he can't satisfy me or that he doesn't turn me on but that is FAR from the case I've never been more turned on or satisfied by anyone!! This past week we have tried so many different things and I've felt sensations I've never had before with oral sex, using toys, different positions everything. Then today I felt this sensation like I thought was an orgasim that made my entire body tense, I couldn't help but scream, and got very light headed BUT THEN I went dry instead of getting dripping wet and my boyfriend got so upset finished everything and is feeling like I faked everything and that I'm not turned on at all and I'm afraid I'm going to loose him now because of this but I don't know what else to do or why this is happening!?!? Someone please help!! I don't want to lose this man and he keeps saying me being satisfied and getting off is what he truly wants and satisfies him and that because I don't orgasim that he's not satisfying which is not true but he won't listen to me!!! What is wrong with me!?!?
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973741 tn?1342342773
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If your boyfriend is getting mad over your wetness or not being wet enough, this is not a keeper in a guy.  Seriously.  He should not be that insecure that he is monitoring a bodily function like that.  Buy some lube anyway and then he won't know what is you or the lube.  But if he is saying you should be a certain way because of other women he has been with, etc.----  that's gross.  

For you in general, learning how your body is best pleasured is important.  I just listened to a program on satellite radio while driving today and it was a sex therapist. She said that only 15 percent of women have vaginal orgasms and the rest have clitoral orgasms.  (whew, I can't believe I'm having this kind of indepth conversation, lol).  They suggested that if you are having issues, to try a vibrator.  Learn to use that to climax and then share that with your partner.

Problem is, your partner isn't understanding and is making you feel inadequate for how your body is responding.  

Again, he doesn't sound like a keeper to me.  This would be the first of many things he'll be insensitive about in the future.  good luck
495284 tn?1333894042
I agree with Specialmom.  When you are in a relationship with someone the art of lovemaking is a 2 way street.  Exploring with each other and finding out what turns each other on is important.  The way he is going about this reaching orgasm will be hard to achieve for you as that is way too much pressure for you.  To have a real successful sex life you 2 need to be mentally connected.  He sounds like he is full of insecurities so please dont let those become your problem.  You deserve better.
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