Hi, my wife and myself spent five years having fertility treatment and were lucky to have twins (boy and girl), who are now 12.
It was only two years ago that my wifes G.P. diagnosed her with depression and prescribed citalopram, she thinks that it may stem back to post natal depression.
In the 12 years since the kids were born sex has been very infrequent, 4-5 times a year, sometimes not even that and this caused me real frustration, I love my wife and despite that she's put on weight I still find her attractive, which I keep telling her (not about the weight bit) but it makes no difference.
I've tried all the usual, payed her loads of attention, not made it into a big issue, taken her out, made her feel special etc. but I've now come to the end of my tether.
About two weeks ago she told me that in a conversation with her work friends (women) she confessed to the most exiting place she had sex and she was worried they may tease her about this when I was around.
The problem was as she put it "well it wasn't with you, so you'll just have to deal with it"
Needless to say I went mad, all I could think of was the wasted years I spent.
We've since talked it through and she says she just isn't interested in sex any more any wouldn't be bothered if she never had sex again.
I appreciate that the anti-depressants suppress libido but I'm not sure whether I want a plutonic relationship, in another conversation she said that friends of hers who have started HRT have had a rekindled sex drive but their husbands are now no longer interested.
The thing is we're only in our early 40's and I really don't want to wait anymore, for me this is a big issue, I don't believe that having no sex drive is healthy for a relationship but I'm loathe to suggest she goes to her G.P to discuss this as I'm sure she'll go mad, unless I can convince her that something can be done.
Is there any way the G.P. can help?