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Being sexually blackmailed, can anyone help?

I've been talking to a guy ever since I was 16, even though I've never physically met him before. I just turned 18. He's still 17 years old (Lets call him L).
He and I would text each other a lot, including sexual texts of ourselves.
Just recently, I got into a relationship with someone (lets call him H).
L found out over Facebook, because I updated my relationship status.  He sent me a message stating that, "I am beyond pissed at you.  I can't believe you."
I texted him in reply to his messages, and at the way end of our conversation, he stated, "Keep talking ****, I still have every single nude you sent me."
I told him, "As do I. But I wouldn't threaten you with that, because even though you pushed me away, I still respect your body and your reputation, and I wish you'd think the same."
He replied: "If you respected me, you would've had the initiative to tell me before you decided to **** me over. Bye."
I replied back: "I'll leave you alone, so long as you don't threaten me with showing my nudes. Just because you're upset, don't try to ruin my life by getting me arrested."

To clear this up, I went astray because he'd reply with one word in every text prior to this.  I have been talking to H for about a month and got in a relationship with him recently.  L is upset at me because he feels he's wasted a year and a half without having any sexual relations at that time, because we wanted to have sex with each other.  I'm not with my boyfriend for sex, though.  He makes me happy.

I don't know what to do, and I'm being blackmailed.
I'm trying to get into a prestigious culinary college after I transfer from the state college that I am currently at.  If these images leak, I'll get into legal trouble and risk getting a good job and great education.  I know I was stupid for sending him pictures, please don't judge me about that.  I'm just scared.  I don't want my boyfriend to get involved because this is my issue, but still... I need a legal defense. Please help!
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Agree with Chima..........give this current bf a "heads up."  That would be awful for him to find this out by accident.
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"I need a legal defense. Please help!"..............I would recommend you consult legal advice ASAP; like yesterday.  This forum isn't for legal advice and shouldn't be used in lieu of seeking legal advice.

I am not sure if you really have a defense.  In fact you could get into hot water because this guy is not legal (under 18).  

If you took the pictures and pushed "send" willingly I am not sure what kind of defense you would have.

You better hope and pray his threats are empty because this could turn very ugly for you.  Moreover, I hope this guy isn't forwarding these pictures to every guy he knows.

When you put something like that on the internet willingly it's pretty much out there for ALL to see.  Please keep that in mind.

All the best.....this is definitely a dilemma and unfortunate.




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I know you didn't mean for this to happen, you just gotta try to remember that anything you send over text could be shared. It stinks that this guy would threaten you like this. Is it because he assumed you were going to date him? Did you guys talk about having a relationship?

I'm not sure what your legal recourse would be, if anything, cause that's not my area of expertise. I think it's best if you don't continue interacting with him though. It's for the best if you limit any future conversations with him.

If he did spread your pics around, then I'm sure you would be within your rights to bust him. But again, I'm not familiar with that type of legal issue so I'm sorry I can't be much help. I'm wondering if you should maybe let your bf know what's going on just as an fyi though, so in case that guy ever does anything with your pics then your bf won't be blindsided. I think that's all you can do right now. Maybe someone else might have some better suggestions.

I have a friend who shares those kinds of pics with guys but she never has her face in the pic. She says she doesn't trust them not to get out so she makes sure she can't be identified. I still think it's dangerous but she swears she has it under control. I've heard a lot of similar stories like yours which is why I worry about my friend but she keeps sending them to random guys online. I guess I've never felt comfortable enough to share those kinds of pics with anyone so this is all pretty foreign to me.
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