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Boyfriend has anger issues

My boyfriend has a temper. He always thinks he's truly right. He has super strong morals and ethics but gets too into his head. I am a manager at a retail store and I always get off around a half hour late than I should. My boyfriend works very hard and commutes over an hour and a half. He gets very tired and crabby. My boyfriend asked when I got out of work and I told him yet I ended up getting out 30 mins later. He told me to meet him at a sporta bar. I was communicating with him the whole time. Weather was horrible with slick snow and cars were bumper to bumper in rush hour. Gps said it would take me over 45 mins. I told him all of this and he waited. He later misread my text and thought I'd be there sooner. I got there almost 2 hours later. I added Jim multiple times if I should just meet him at home and he said no. I get to the bar and he's upset I 'made' him wait 2 hours. I told him I was hurt his first thought was that and not that he was happy I got there safe. He gave me the cold shoulder. He watched the game and I just sat there sipping my drink. I then said how could he be mad about something out ofy control. He then explained I made him wait 2 hours and he could have just met me at home. He then apologized and said he was just tired. But still wouldn't talk to me. By that point I got up and said I was going home and it's bs that he's that upset at me. It escalated and we met at home. He was upset I made a scene and brought up past fights and wouldn't stop talking about how he was over waiting for me. I told him how hurt I was. I then lost my cool and for emotional. Then he said he didn't need that and was going to leave. Later saying he'd drank so I shouldn't being this up. Is it time to call it quits? Or let's him cool down?
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What You see is what You get - that's what Red Flags are for - we should heed them

"the best indicator of future behavior is past behavior"  - I forget who said that but wise words, indeed
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Yes, is this just an example of what happens frequently or is this a one time thing?  

He was kind of rude.  I'm not sure how he missed you saying that I'm running late from work AND the weather is terrible so I'm really late . . .   should we meet at home.  Can you show him your text where you say that and he says no?  

anyway, it also is unfair that he can throw anything he feels is your fault in your face but trying to resolve this negative experience with him isn't allowed.  

If this is his usual pattern, he has much work to do to become a good communicator and partner.  And if he doesn't work on it actively acknowledging the problem . . .   then this relationship won't ever be happy.  

If it was a one time thing . . .   we all have bad nights.  :>)  good luck
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How long have you two been together and how old are you two?

Sounds like it's time to call it quits in my opinion especially if he has these unresolved anger; control issues.

Is this happening often or occasionally?  
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