Boyfriend lied about his age

[Stressedmomma2]

Ive been seeing this guy for nine months hes 57 and im 30 which would of never been an issue had up until a week ago he not told me he was 47...he was just supposed to be a casual hook up when i first met him but obviously things progressed into a pretty serious relationship...i genuinely love and care about him but now find myself questioning everything he says i really want to work through it but not sure how

[specialmom]

I think you are right to question this. Lying about something like that is creepy in my opinion.  I'm going to be dead honest here . . .  he's so significantly older than you that it CAN become an issue as time goes on.  My husband and I are about the same age and married later in life, he had several male friends that married around the same time as us.  They married women much much younger.  I love these gals.  But, they are realistic.  HIS health will decline long before yours will.  that's just frankly the reality.  Having kids is tricky because he'll be the old guy with little kids (said lovingly as an older mom--  not nearing 60 or anything but older than a lot of other parents of kids our kids age).  being 27 years older than you DOES make a difference and even he knows that and thus, lied about it.  We DO have to be practical in relationships --  and if you are looking for a life partner, someone nearer your age will have a longer life to live with you. Sorry to put it that way.  But in being blunt, I'm trying to help.  I'd take this red flag and throw up your white one in response and work to find another partner that doesn't lie and is closer in age t0 you.  good luck