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Chronic Pancreatitis and Love Making aren't mixing!

I love my husband more than life itself, I can't imagine a world without him, and unfortunately he has Chronic Pancreatitis. His CP causes awful, painful nights and even days, so I stand by his side and aid him.  He doesn't usually say when he's not feeling good, because truly I think it's all the time, but he has better days then some.  I love being intimate with him, sometimes I miss it and sometimes I know I need to tend to his needs more than worry about sex.  Should I discuss with him that we set up a plan or schedule, or that he tells me when he's feeling up for it?  When we are being intimate, I know I should be careful with him but HOW??? What can I do that will please him without hurting him?  Let it be noted that whatever happens I will always be there for him, in sickness and in health, until death do us part!
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Your sweet as sugar and you concerns are valid.  I have chronic pancreatitis and my husband is just like you there for me till the end.  I consider myself blessed to have him in my life and so supportive just like you are and believe me thats everything!  
I don't know how long your husband has been suffering or how severe it is.  I know when I finally was diagnosed with it ibuprofen worked just fine.  I have progressed to the point of needing narcotics and I usually end up in the ER at least once a month.  I generally never feel good whether its pain or nausea.  I actually keep a pain journal is which is a good snap shot of what and when it happens.  I have no real pattern myself but maybe he does.  My husband will ask me if I wouldl like to be intimate and no matter how much I want him and I do want him I just couldn't at that time.  Still we manage to be intimate about 2x a week.  Since it sounds like you have a very loving relationship if it were me I would ask "Is there a better time during the day or week that would be better for you?"  Usually between me and my husband a gentle I miss you lets him and I know that we need each other in a loving way.  It actually hurts when we can't show the ones we love how we feel in that most intimate way.  Your husband loves you and appreciates you.  Like I said your concerns are valid and I'm sure after talking about it you'll both come to an agreement.
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Sounds like the underlying issue is him getting better pain control because it is obvious it is affecting alot of aspects of his life.  Is he seeing Pain Management at all?  I am not sure if he "max out" with the amount or dosage of pain meds or meds he is taking.  

You can talk to him about the idea of a schedule or a plan in regards to sex and see what he thinks.  He would be the better one to ask in regards to  what to do without hurting him.  

Talk to him and see what he says.  
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