Confused

[Promoore]

I have a few problems and i dont know if anyone can relate with this. im 19 turning 20.
i've been in a serious relationship for 2 years with my girlfriend who i love very much.
we've been sexually active for about a year and a half. the last few months have been weird for me. and i don't understand. about 6 months ago i noticed that i can't finish having sex. its great at first and then alittle bit into it i just seem to lose feeling. I know it sounds weird but i'm still hard and i have no problem getting it up. but it gets to the point where i go for about an hour and a half without any signs of ( and i dont know a better word for this) coming. she doesnt have a problem at all with it and the only thing wrong is that i get mad and i just give up. she gets mad and i dont want to lose her or find anyone else for this problem.

that was only one problem. i have one more. we both give oral and i mostly give it. now im not going to lie and i dont want to sound like a dog or anything but ive had oral from few women but the thing is i could never come. i dont know why. and once again i cant feel it.

if someone can give me any advice at all i would be soo happy. all i want to do is make my girl happy and lately these have been the main problems.

Thank you.

[Promoore]

first off i want to say thanks for responding to my post. ive seen what you 2 have posted earlier today and i liked alot of things you 2 have said.

but back to the main point.

not to put down what you said "slow" but i dont worry about finishing. our sex life is great. we do everything we can try. ive talked to her about this before and when i told her i think i hurt our relationship with it. she thinks this is her fault and that she doesnt turn me on and etc. which is not the case at all.

she suggested that maybe we have sex too much or maybe its where we have sex that could be a problem.

i dont know what kind of doctor to go to or anything. or maybe its something deeper and im not realizing

[slow_healer]

Promoore, seeing how you replied on the other post very similar to yours, why don't you take the pressure off of having to "finish" when you have sex. That way your girlfriend doesn't have to go into sex dreading your reaction at the end. It's probably stress or psychologically related (boredom, routine, habit - have all become monotonous perhaps?). Try addressing that by trying something new with your girlfriend. Spice things up and relax. These things tend to get worse the more you worry about them.

Take some time to read through other posts on here - this concern seems to have been vocalized few times times recently.

As for the oral sex, try reading this post: http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/349533

[jml1986]

It sounds to me like you are too focused on reaching orgasm that you are not totally enjoy the sexual act. Try going into the sexual act without any expectations. Enjoy the pleasure of just being in the moment. You may be surprised.