Are you certain or not he has these intimate pics?
He is a "28 year-old successful businessman" but has time for all this nonsense?
You mentioned you went to a party a friend was having, but then you state you have no friends? Do you have any support group whatsoever? Why can't you see your own parents?
He is a ticking time bomb and you REALLY, REALLY need to separate yourself from him. Leave him and get the authorities involved if needed.
Are you seeing a therapist for your issues? If not, find one PRONTO! I am sure the campus can help you out with that.
Hi, Thank your for commenting.
I am not certain if he has any pictures, but i have a strong feeling he may have due to his perverted nature which i have now discovered.
The party was at the start of university, shortly after freshers week, when every student is friendly and looking to make friends. I met some students at the start before my boyfriend started behaving this way. And made some new friends, however they did not remain as I was not allowed to socialize without being made felt guilty for going out.
He is a software developer and only needs his laptop to work. He is self employed, through his own company and offers his service through contracts to other companies. Meaning that he only has to carry his laptop everywhere and that is all. He does attend a few days at the company but varies, depending on the company type. So went ever he would come to see me he was not losing out as he would continue his work on his laptop.
I am currently seeing a counselor on campus at university to over come my social anxiety and self confidence issues.
Hon, this man is ruining your life.
Have you discussed this situation with your therapist at all?
The guilt is coming from you. You can only make yourself feel guilty.
Did you send him intimate pics and/or allow yourself to be photographed in an explicit manner? You should know this.
I know but I feel so trapped!
I have not yet discussed with my therapist as i was more focusing on my self confidence issues and social anxiety with her but plan on doing so in my next appointment.
I will have to learn how to control the guilt aspect.
I have not sent him any, however please do not judge me, I know it was a really irresponsible and bad thing to do. But we have masturbated with each other over skype. And i am now worried he will have it recorded or have taken snapshots.
No judgement here; I was just trying to get clarity about the situation with the pictures.
CUT THIS OFF NOW for your own sake. Get authorities involved if need be.
"I have not yet discussed with my therapist as i was more focusing on my self confidence issues and social anxiety with her but plan on doing so in my next appointment."................Hon, this situation trumps EVERYTHING else at this time. It is destroying your life. Get an appointment soon as possible and make this the ONLY thing you discuss with your therapist. He/she needs to help you sort this out ASAP.
This guy sounds like he is spinning out of control...............time bomb.
He may or may not have pics.....hopefully he doesn't.
Yes - go to your local courthouse and get a restraining order against this monster. He is WRECKING your life. He does not show any sympathy/support for your struggles with anxiety. And, the guy is flat-out DANGEROUS. He should not be permitted on your campus at all. And you DESERVE the same freedoms everyone else does, to have friends and socialize. Please, for your own life - remove this maniac from it.
Ugh, very sorry you find yourself in this situation. Okay, worst case scenario, he has pictures. you'd be one of about of gazillion girls that have this happen to them and you'll live through that. But you won't live through an abusive boyfriend. He needs to stay away and OUT of your life. Tell your parents and the school and yes, law enforcement if need be.
I had someone stalking me. An ex boyfriend. I called him and asked if he was listening and to understand I was tape recording the conversation. I then told him that this was record of me telling him that I want nothing to do with him and if he comes near me again, he is doing so against my wishes, does he hear me saying this to him. I then told him that I would present this to the police I need be. He left me alone.
This adult man is blackmailing you. Ridiculous. Don't let him. good luck
Well, you seem pretty comfortable with his computer - invite him over, and when he goes to sleep get on his lap top and wipe out his skye history. It's apparently saved automatically for 30 days, but after that, you can set it to save conversations longer.
Clean it out.
I will be discussing with my counselor in my next appointment which i am waiting for at the moment. I am suffering from many problems with self confidence, anxiety and panic attacks and my therapist was appointed due to these reasons. As i am a weak personality at the moment and am suffering from these issues at first I felt it was my fault. I felt that I need to deal with myself then maybe my relationship will get better, I felt that because i cannot stand up for myself this is why i am getting pushed over. I give in and submit to what ever he says, he indirectly controls me with guilt, but at the same time will not let me go.
I am really really scared of him having these pics and sharing them on the internet! I am a weak person and feel that it will leave me suicidal. I am really confused. If he gets violent again i will have to build courage to call the police, but even that i am scared of as this will anger him and again he can release any pics or videos.
Thank you for commenting. I am aware that he is ruining my life my self respect, livelihood and the will to live. But I am terrified of this happening to me, I feel it will leave me suicidal as i am very mentally weak in the first place.
I totally understand your terror, as I spent 2 years of my young life with an abusive partner. That is why you need him out of your life, NOW, FAST, and no looking back. I hate the prase 'weak minded' - it implies a lack of courage to get things done, and I don't believe that about you. Please, move to a new dorm if you must. And when you see him coming, RUN. No phone calls, e-mails, facebook, ZERO. Let campus security know he is a problem. Then move on with your young and blooming LIFE. :)