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Could he be attracted to little girls?
Sorry for the TMI but me and my husband do little role play in the bedroom but when we do he likes to be my daddy. At first it started out with “are you my little 15 year old? It was strange but I kept with it. Then it dropped to 12 and I was starting to feel uncomfortable and then the other day he said 9 year old. He keeps getting younger and younger. I haven’t talked to him about it and asking if he is attracted to little girls by the way he talks because I know he will deny it. So my question is this....can he just be role playing weirdly or is the underlying issue that he IS attracted to young girls. He doesn’t force me to act like a kid or anything. Just says the age and the whole time will say “daddy’s little girl”. Please help!
That's a red flag for me. But also because I was sexually molested as a child by my own sperm donor.
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Ugh, sorry to hear. That definitely changes our awareness for the rest of our lives.
Most definitely sounds to me like he's attracted to little girls and especially because it's escalating (getting younger and younger) this would be a complete turn off for me - it's hard to unring a bell, - and it would be really hard to think that as i was getting older, his preference is getting younger. Did he start this after you got pregnant or before?
(I would not want to have a daughter with this man, either.)
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That’s why it bothers me so much more now. We just had a daughter. She is two months old. Should I sit him down and talk to him about it even if he won’t be honest about it?
Boy, I'd talk to a therapist first. I've heard that if a man gets aroused to the idea of children, or incest, it is a very hard thing to change. It would scare the heck out of me to be in your shoes right now. Also, keep a journal of what he has said and when, and how it has escalated. You will need the record if you ever decide this is serious enough to leave him over.
Yes, don't try to do a therapist's job, and don't even let on to him that things aren't right because he will stop providing information. If it is going where it seems to be, there isn't any talking over to do anyway. Just gather info for a professional as advised, and get hold of one soon.
You might be stuck giving him visitation rights in a split up. My niece had something like this between her hubby and son but she wasn't able to get him banned because kids don't do well testifying in court. Likely you can get info and tips from the police too, or if you can afford a lawyer.
You might be stuck giving him visitation rights in a split up. My niece had something like this between her hubby and son but she wasn't able to get him banned because kids don't do well testifying in court. Likely you can get info and tips from the police too, or if you can afford a lawyer.
He is trying out this fantasy, that is for sure, possibly in what he feels is a safe place to say the words out loud. I suppose the question is whether it's ever been any more than a fantasy or ever would be more than a fantasy. If this were my husband, it would bother me a lot. I would feel like he was enlisting me to abet his desires and that those desires are pretty creepy.
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