Dating for over a year and miserable. HELP

[worriedalot128]

I know what I have to do but am scared to do it. Basically my GF is pretty much everything I despise. At first I thought, "eh no big deal, I can handle this." It is to the point now where I am walking on eggshells every time I am around her. I am living for her and not for me. I am just scared to break it off because I do love her, but I know it won't work. The depression, crying, and loneliness is what scares me the most. I know in my heart there is no way I could spend the rest of my life with her and after a yr of trying so hard I feel as though I failed. I feel sorry for her because of the way she is and was raised. She can be very cold and heartless but sometimes, though rare the soft side comes out. I know I need to get out, but dammit it scares me.

[Gemz154]

Good Luck and hope you find happiness!!
Sometimes it's better to regret something you have done than something that you haven't. Life is way too short! A teacher said to me once (not that i took much notice of it at the time) but what would you rather be sayin in years to come, ' I wish or I'm glad'!!

xx

[worriedalot128]

Well I got out today. I have a feeling of relief. Tomorrow I will be looking for a new home and I feel like I can do whatever I want without having to check in with someone. Thanks for the push guys.

[teko]

Dating is to get to know someone and it goes further only if the parties are compatible and happy together. Neither of these things apply to you in your situation. Your choices are simply as follows: One, break it off, re claim your freedom and your life, that alone would be a lifting moment after being so miserable, would it not? I mean, why be depressed about getting out from under something that makes you feel so bad!. Or two, let your pity for her nastiness keep you emprisoned in it with her for the rest of your life. Now that! That would be sad and very depressing! Thank your lucky stars that you are not married and have children with this woman that would tie you to her for your remaining days! Also, realize that you are still to meet the person that is meant to be with you and leaving this one will put you back on the path to making that happen sooner rather than later! You should not be allowing someone to treat you like their doormat! Let her find another, if she can!

[worriedalot128]

I was in a relationship once that I thought was going great. I was blindsided when the girl broke up with me. Was severely depressed and moved back in with my parents. I am worried that this will happen to me again. Except, I cannot move back in with parents this time. We just talked a minute ago and it looks like we are done. She is constantly putting me down and telling me I am trash and blah blah blah. All ********, which I know. So, I am at this point looking around for "lots" and plan on purchasing a mobile home. Oh, she also thinks people who live in mobile homes are trash. She hates Obama because he is black and wants Sarah Palin to be president because she is a woman. She is very materialistic and honestly, we would not even be dating had I been living in a mobile home when we met.

I am scared because of the depression I may or may not feel. I now have a siberian husky to keep me company, along with work, my gym, the doggy park, plus a ton of other girls I am interested in getting to know. I can't stop myself from feeling sorry for her though. I am starting to blame myself for all of this even though I know in my heart of hearts, I am not the problem.

[RockRose]

worried,  what scares you about letting go of this awful relationship?  Why do you say you're scared?

[cheshchesh819]

When you say the crying depression and loneliness scares you are you relating to your girlfriend or yourself?a bit more info is needed here.