I recently began again to date a woman I dated almost five years ago. Back then, she was the first woman I dated after my divorce. She is five years younger than me so no big deal about age difference. We never had a dull moment together. She was bright, funny, intelligent, witty, charming, a really, really great woman with two exceptions. One, despite us dating for six months, she never acknowledged it as so. We were always "just hanging out" and she would allow other people to say "boyfriend/girlfriend" but would never say it herself. Make any sense? Two, she had a LOT of personal issues - alcohol abuse, mommy issues, depression, etc. Back then, I wasn't mature enough to handle it and I tried to be there for her but it got to be too much.
Fast forward to now. We lost track for about two and a half years because I was engaged to a crazy b----. Long story short! After that, I took a year off to work on myself and, lo and behold, my first girlfriend after the divorce sends a Facebook friend request, o we need to catch up, etc. and the good times begin again. However, although I promised not to leave her ever again and I am mature enough to deal with any personal issues she may have, I am having difficulty seeing her now as a romantic interest. Two times in the past three weeks (we've gone out about seven times now) when, in the past, I would move in for a goodnight kiss, I have no interest, desire, or drive. She does allow us to be physically closer such as sitting on the same couch. (Five years ago, she wouldn't do that.) Plus, there's this "guy friend" in her life who actually has a key to her house. When I went over last night, he was there, left for a few hours, (so we watched a movie), and then came back about 10:30 - just as I was about to make a move on her on the couch. I think if I go too long I may end up in the "friend zone" but there are things that make me uncomfortable yet I don't want to bring them up because I do enjoy having her in my life.