My husband has been suffering with depression for over a year now. He lost a friend in a tragic motorbike accident 2 year ago. He ran a kungfu club with him and immediately took over the running of it alone along with workin long hours and financial stress I think these have been the triggers.. At the beginning of the year he was angry and aggressive all of the time but now he's like an empty shell..He's started to admit it abit but mostly blames me which I think he finds easier.. He says he wants to try and stay in the marriage but nothing is changing and he won't seek help. He carries on working as much as possible and is distant and sleeps downstairs rather than come to bed.. I only get a hug when I ask..I feel like I'm alone in this marriage but love him dearly.. I feel grief! Other than give him an ultimatum I'm at a loss as what else I can do. I've went to a debt charity which has been a huge relief..I don't want to give up on him he's in there somewhere. I'm 40 and hes 41 and we've been together since the age of 15.. Any advice on this situation is welcome.