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Does he love me?? :/

Ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over six months. We have a very good relationship, we hardly ever argue only very rarely over little stupid things but we make up that night always. Curiosity got the best of me and I went into his messages. He has alot of girls as friends so I expected to see him writing to other girls and such which didn't bother me but a couple of them did. He was messaging his ex and he asked when she would get her phone back and she was like idk and he was like " Well it might come with a surprise ;) " .. I don't know what that is supposed to mean that was really the only bad thing in that convo so.. I don't know if I should be worried or what... Then I read another between some girl I don't know and they we're joking around and he was like go to bed and she was like you go to bed and he said " I might need someone to come join me :p " or something along those lines. I just sat there and stared at the messages because I didn't know what to think. I'm a very loyal person, and I do literally everything for him. He finally he told me he loved me a couple weeks before valentines day.. I just don't know what to think. He calls me every night usually, we don't boss each other around which is rare for teenagers you know. (by the way I'm sixteen and he is almost 19) I just don't know what to think he sees me as much as he can and we get along so great. Should I be worried about that???????? It has been eating at me so bad . He also don't know I went through his stuff.. privacy is a big thing to him, not when it comes to just me either when it comes to his mom or brother or anyone. He would be very angry if he knew I went through his stuff. I just don't know what to think somebody please give me some advice :/
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I don't know why it cut out that he had got on facebook then accidently forgot to log out, then curiosity got the best of me and I went through his messages.
13167 tn?1327194124
You're a high school girl with interesting plans for yourself beyond high school,  and he's a little bit older guy.  

He's looking around at other girls,  not that dedicated to your relationship,  he's a teenager as you are.

This is not the guy you're going to spend your life with.  This is a guy you'll refer to a year or so down the road as "a guy I used to date".  

Don't be distracted by him.  Keep going to your high school classes,  and keep focused on your plan to get your CNA license,  and I'm telling you,  this guy will be history in the next 6 months.
1925157 tn?1328929017
I agree with rockrose, I've been in your shoes your best bet is to focus on you, he's a growing guy who likes you, but likes all the other girls to.. if you know what I mean, the comments deems to have had some hidden sexual message to them, just let it go though, don't stress about it and don't let it eat at you, if its ment to be you guys will be and if not and he screws up then there's your answer to your question. You honestly don't fond love until your way out of high school and in the real world, so the best advice I can give you as of now is don't even bother looking for it like the rest of the highschool girls out there..
1548028 tn?1324612446
At your age, you are just doing research.  You are looking at different guys and their values, what things you like and don't like, what you want in someone long term vs. short term.  This is what dating is all about.  You meet lots of people (not just boyfriends or dates but husbands of other people, boyfriends of other people) and you say I like that-that's a quaility I hope find in a guy.  Take the qualities you see and keep mental notes.  Keep on track with your dreams.  Goodluck!
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Absolutely agree with RockRose.  
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Thank you all.
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