Don't know what to do with boyfriend being really aggressive and angry

[Amber2415]

For the past months it seems like my boyfriend is getting angryer and it can be little things just like if someone looks at him funny he will get so Mad and even start looking at me ugly,we'll today when we had sex it started to hurt so I pushed him off me and he got really mad and even made a fist like he wanted to hit me,I just don't know what to do and it's starting to have me scared

[specialmom]

I'm sorry that is happening!  In a calm moment, have you pointed this out to him?  A lot of men get aggressive and angry when they are suffering anxiety.  I'm not sure why but it is a common dynamic.  Certainly uncomfortable to be around and if it seems you are going to be the target for it, you don't want to be that.  

I'd tell him where things are at.  That he's doing X and it makes you feel scared and uncomfortable.  See what he says.  If he is able to see it himself and agree to work on it, go from there.  If not, then cut your losses.  

And never put yourself in a dangerous situation with a man that can blow up at you.  Especially making a fist!  That's crazy.  Let us know how it goes.  

[AnnieBrooke]

Darling, it is time to leave -- the category of time known as "high time." Or, save-your-life time.

People who have suffered abuse or deep disappointed in things in their lives will sometimes react with unreasoning anger at the innocent people around them. But this is his problem to solve for himself (hint: therapist). When you have had this clear of a warning that this man is going to lash out, it is not time to wonder what to do. Hop on the bus, puss. Make a new plan, Ann. No need to be coy, Joy. Time to get out.

[AnnieBrooke]

And though I am making fun with a Paul Simon song, I am NOT joking. Three women are killed every day in the U.S. by their domestic partners. Half of all women murdered in the U.S. are killed by their intimate partner. Get real. Pack and go.