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Drained!

I woke up this morning, saying I can make it through the day without my emotions dictating to me. The guy who I'm currently with somehow our relationship has taken a detour. Disconnected is more like it. Earlier this week he finally admitted to himself that his ways weren't right in how he treated me or females in general. That would give any woman the sense that we can do this we're going to make it attitude. Unfortunately the opposite is forming, rarely texting now and when we do he's feeling one way and me another. 50% of me is invested and the other 50% is saying that it's over and to let it be. Wanting to walk away but I become so emotional at the thought of the relationship be done. This is the first relationship I've worked so hard at making things right or better that it's draining the hell out of me. I wake up shedding tears because I have no clue as to where we stand. Talking is doing no good... Give any advice you can, what is next?
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I agree with SpecialMom.

It is NEVER easy to leave a Relationship, and One does not leave without feeling Pain and Heartache.  It always feels bad to lose a Romance, to realize something You once thought was so Right and so Good no longer is.  You wouldn't even HAVE the "Capacity" for Love if You didn't feel Emotional at the loss of Love.  In that sense, HeartAche is "almost" a "necessary" pain.  So, if You feel it is right to be done, then that is what You should do, You may be a little scared, and Your Heart may be a little scarred but it's still Beating and Healthy and Whole and it will Repair itself.
Didn't Shakespeare tell us - "it's better to have Loved and lost than to not have Loved at all"??  He did forget to tell us that the next Love is ALWAYS Greater and it IS - it really, really is!!  - So, I also agree with SpecialMom's second post.

Good Luck
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It's always hard to break it off with someone.  I've been there.  But when you  are in love and connected to a new guy, you'll wonder why you put up with the issues you and this guy have for so long.  I promise.  

Breaking free from something that has run it's course is hard.  But I empower to take care of yourself by doing so.  Peace and luck to you
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Thank you...
It really is emotional and upsetting. I poured so much of myself into the relationship left every scar open bared it all and it's not enough. I want the relationship but know I'm not sensing that connection anymore.
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Hi there.  Sweetie, it is always hard to leave a relationship.  You can care about someone and realize that the match isn't working.  I think you are aware that it isn't working.  Don't waste any more of your time with a guy that isn't right for you as it stops you from finding the one who is.  

peace and luck.  Be brave and strong.  
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