Dunno??

[Askeete17]

Okay so me and BD have been on n off for 4 years. I try n not fight or argue with him but its like inevitable. Like I cnt control it lil comments he says pisses me off. And when we talk about our relationship and problems ive noticed he wont get over the past its like ge refuses to. Ive lost his trust and I feel like im doin all I can to get it bacj but he dnt see it bc gea stuck in the past. And u feel like all the talking in the world wont solve our problems. All he says is I need to fix myself in order to fix us which I kinda understand but I think its more he needs to work out his problems bc I really want to get past this. He tells me he loves me but we cnt be together...... :( I dnt kno what else to do I keep thinkin only thing left to do is give up but I know that wont happen no matter how much I can say it. he knows I always try n say im done bc his issues but I never leave I always beg for us to work this out.... But at the same time im sooo tired if no change but u cnt make myself leave. any suggestions on what I can try and do?? I mean im not workin findin a job is soo hard and hes not workin. He gets unemployment n us geting GED and I am trying to figure out better school options bc at the moment im not in college I started but had to stop for reasons I dnt wana say.

[Londres70]

Agree with Mami and TinKKerBBell about turning to your family for support if that is possible.  I am not sure if this ex will be much help financially; he definitely can't do much for you now being that he doesn't even have a high school diploma and is unemployed.    

Please try to work on making better choices because it isn't about only you anymore now that you have a baby on the way.    

All the best.  

[TTinKKerBBell]

I didn't know there was a baby on the way when I made my first comment but now that I know - this is even more distressing.

Baby comes first - Can You go home to Mom and Dad?  or another relative?  You really need to focus on Your Baby - let b.f. come around and do the "fixing" if there's any "fixing" to be done.  Focus on being a Mom, hopefully he will focus on being a Dad.

[Askeete17]

Yes he is the babys dad and im due in july so im trying to focus on the baby but I still think abt him ans wish but im now to really not let it get to me anymore

[Londres70]

Well, keep working on those things.  From the sounds of things, this ex bf/the baby's father needs to work on himself as well.  So... you both need to work on yourselves SEPARATELY for your child's sake.  

You will have to stay in contact for the baby's sake with the ex bf, but sounds like anything else is out of the question at this time.  This will be a challenge for you, but you must redirect your focus to the baby and your future someway somehow.  

[mami1323]

Do you have family that can help you?  You need to focus on getting your life in order over anything else.  You have a baby on the way and that should be your number 1 priority.  Does he plan on being part of his baby's life?  I understand how hard this is but once that baby comes, you won't have time to worry about what your boyfriend is doing, you will have to worry about how you will be able to provide for this child.  

[specialmom]

I had forgotten you were expecting.  Is the baby your boyfriend's child?  

[Askeete17]

I am trying to get back into school now working on looking up different ones. Im still tryin to look for work havent found anythinh yet. And I fully understand what all of you are saying. I think to myself that its over I just dnt wana believe that. Im trying to get everythinh straight for the baby

[Londres70]

Sounds like the relationship is over unfortunately and you need to move on and focus on your BABY and getting back into school and/or finding work.  I saw another post of yours stating that you were on suspension from school because of your grades.  Is that correct?  I would be focusing on fixing that.  

It hurts, but you have NO choice but to move on.  This guy has told you this and it seems to be "crystal clear."  You can't make someone want to be with you.  Part of the blame for this is in relation to your cheating on your bf.  

Sounds like you need to sort yourself out and NOT worry about any relationship with any guy at this time.  Ideally, I would recommend you seeking a counselor to help you to sort this out.  Perhaps there are free resources available to you for this.  I would also recommend seeking free resources for you to sort out the situation with a job, school and your pregnancy.  

Move on dear.  Learn to make better choices.  If you don't, you will continue to have these sort of issues.  This is NO bad luck only bad choices that have been made.  

[specialmom]

I'm not sure what has gone on to have you lose his trust----  did you cheat?  Sometimes events in a relationship are simply too big to just shove under the carpet and either take massive amounts of time and effort to get over or never go away.  Not knowing what has happened means I don't know if his distrust in you is legitimate or not.  Ya know?  

But if this relationship has much more displeasure than pleasure, that is usually a sign that it has run its course.  Perhaps a fresh start would be better for you?  good luck

[TTinKKerBBell]

OMGolly!!  If You don't see what is wrong with this picture, I rather doubt anyone can give You insight.  
I hope I haven't offended You here as I'm sincere in my observation and I wish You well but You need to move on.  Good Luck.