Friendship Question.... Help!

[purplerose88]

Hello everyone! I know you guys are great in advises and have helped me get through hard moments.

this is one more. I have a friend (call her BLUE) blue and I been friends for 3yrs we work together. I know some of you know my previews drama with my bf and the whole drama with the guy coworker.
well before I came to a conclusion that my Coworker the guy was the one emailing my bf I thought it was BLUE and I confronted her about it and she said no... Me and her we been really good friends but after all the drama with my bf we distant eachtoher... I assume this whole time it was her sending the anonymous to my bf, but then I though "it cant be her after everything we share and honest friendship we had" so I said sorry to her for doubting her. this was for 3months long I didn’t talk to her and she didn’t talk to me. She told me she missed me and she was emotionally drained and confused. I said Sorry and I apologized to her but I guess she wont forgive me.

I feel sad because we where really good friends, I miss her all this time and even when I assume it was her sending the emails I was hurt she would something like that to me. was it that bad what I did? I missed up and I wish we can be friends again but I guess she had it with me. :{ what u think? is she over reacting? or I did something really bad by not trusting her?

[Londres70]

Dear, in these situations it is best to have the facts BEFORE accusing someone, however, these things happen.  

Well....perhaps find a nice card and write a nice note telling her how bad you feel about what happened and express that you truly value her as a friend and you miss her terribly.  Send it and she what happens; wait for her to respond.  

If you are truly friends you two will get past this.  This is nothing that can't be repaired.  

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, you obviously hurt her feelings.  You basically told her that you think she is the kind of person that would be so disloyal to you that she'd interfere with your boyfriend and send emails.  That is saying you don't think very highly of her.  it would hurt, for sure.

I think that you give her time to get over it.  Accusing someone of something when they are innocent feels rotten.  she's feeling rotten and now is second guessing you right back.  

I do think time will heal this.   Send her a note or letter telling her how much you miss her, value your friendship, and are sorry for ever doubting her.   And tell her that you will always be there to be her friend.  

Then kiss her butt for a while.  and hopefully it will blow over.  good luck dear