You are 17. All the emotional drama comes soon enuff. I would get out there and enjoy myself and not give this guy any more wasted time. It sounds like you are more into him than he is in you so forget him. Life is too short and you are just beginning your journey in life and so dont waste one second more second guessing this dude. Sounds like he knows you will jump when he wants you so has you on the back burner for when he has nothing else. Lose him.
if hes sending mixed signals he proably wants to play (I know cuz I have personaly been through it myself both being the player or the girl who got played) basicly when a girl likes a guy alot of times she REALLY likes him but its not always this way with guys and men. He may go back and forth you know liking you and then change his mind (its a possiblility) some guys have a short fuse they feel a sudden spark when they first meet a girl date her until they figure her out the challenege is over its a bit like playing a video game.....once you beet the final boss its over and there is no point in playing anymore and its time to buy a new game. I once dated a guy for 9 months and had him tell me he didn't love me and that he never loved me I felt devastated but I eventualy accepted that I was a game in his mind. However right now your in a grey area this guy may most likely still want to use you to have someone to be there for him emotionaly or to give sex to him but being in a relationship makes it harder for him to sleep with other women. So he continues to text you since he dated you once before he knows exactly how much you care about him and so he does not have to worry about you going anywhere. personaly I'd tell the guy to screw off (thats just me tho)
You could however if you want to maintian a friendship tell him you want to be friends but that you've moved on and are seeing other people. But make sure you are really over him before you do this....I know it ***** but there is a reason they call it falling in love can't exactly fall out now can you?
this is the best advice I can give for now best of luck to you tho hope you get this figured out,
Alex potts
Your welcome, and I'm glad all the advice helped you out. Take care of yourself :)
Thank you so much, I really appreciate all of your advice. It's really helped :)
I agree with the other ladies, don't give this guy any more chances and move on. Probably in his mind, he's thinking that he's being a friend but in reality, he's giving you unintentional hope. If you have any sort of feelings for this guy, and he isn't willing to commit, it's time to find someone else who won't string you along and appreciate you for you. Believe me, when you find that special someone, there are no questions about commitment whatsoever and you'll never have to sit around and wait for a text or call from him.
Ugh. I hate it when someone gives us mixed signals as he is doing here. However, I think most of his signal is that he's moved on and doesn't want to date. I'm sorry as I'm sure that is not what you wanted to hear. He could have been texting after a drink at the bar and been lonely and then when he sobered, he realized he didn't want to do that. I don't know. But I think that tbabi is right here, I'd move on and let him go. Take a breather from dating for a bit.
I find that for many, being friends with an ex is quite difficult. One or the other usually still has some left over feelings and they almost always get in the way. If a friendship really happens, it is usually after a period of time.
good luck
He also said in the texts that he wanted to see me again, and he misses me..
I don't know if your a christian or not but I still think that 1 Corinthians 13 is a good place to look when trying to understand what true love is. Read it and then compare it with your actual situation. But be honest! It's not that easy, eh? It takes time, care and consistency to reach that level of love and... to maintain it. Do not accept anything less than true love.. you deserve it and its a matter of happiness not just now, but forever if you choose this person for life.
I hope this helped and I hope you make the right choice. :)