Thanks I will take your advice to heart and talk to him about the "us" or lack there of.
he's gone south to visit his father but i'll talk to him about it next time i see him face to face.
This is a sticky situation because there is that friendship there that could possibly be ruined if it turns out that his feelings for you are just merely platonic. The best thing for you to do is be open and honest with him about your feelings. He may reject them but at least you got your answer and you don't sit there wondering does he or doesn't he. I think we've all been in these type of situations, I've actually been on the other end of what your going through. I had this really great guy friend who fell in love with me and I loved hanging out with him. He was so funny and we always had a great time together. He wanted so badly for it to turn into something, but it just wasn't there for me. I loved him as a friend and relied on him but when it came down to it, I just wanted the friendship. I'm not saying this is what your situation is like, but just be careful. I never led on my friend, I was always upfront and honest with him but it didn't matter to him because his feelings were too strong. I wound up meeting my fiance and basically broke my friend's heart. Our friendship was never the same after that and now we never speak. He moved on as well but my point is that someone always manages to get hurt if one person has feelings and the other doesn't. Although, on the other side of things this may wind up turning into a true love story. The friendship you two share might make a perfect relationship. That's what relationships are, friendships with a little added something. You will never know though until you confront him. If he still plays the run around with you than I recommend spending some time away from him. He may not mean to hurt you but if he doesn't feel the same than being around him may be too difficult for you. Get the space you need to move on. I wish you the best of luck and hope it does work out for the best.
Oh boy. I had one of those type of guys once. It turns out all he was after was a good time and he let it play out that there was a possibility of more (although he never mentioned it directly, it was implied) because he wanted to string me along. I really, really wanted to believe there was more. What finally made me have a wake up call was when he kept calling us friends or that it was not really a relationship and he had all sorts of terms for everything, including "intimate" and "acquaintance" and the list went on. In the end, I was heartbroken and he walked away saying, "I'm sorry but I told you it wasn't super serious, I thought you knew too." Just beware, while your guy may be completely different, he might be like mine was. It took me a very long time to get over him and the hurt. I thought we were friends too and when he walked away, he took the friendship with him too. I would definitely want to get some clarity with this guy before you invest a ton of time...
You have to be able to decipher what you can put up with. It sounds like your a "need answers kind of girl." I think you should let him know that you love him but you want a real relationship with him & not just when it's convienent for him. I mean if he's scared of commitment, then give him is space. Tell him that you wont wait around for him & you will begin to date others. Sometimes you need to make a man realize that they really do have feelings for you, (if in fact he does.) If a man knows that he has you wrapped around his finger or "right where he wants you" he will be comfortable with that. Don't fall victim to that if you can stand it. I do think he has some strong feelings for you but don't wait around if he is not willing to call it what it is.