Help with Chlamydia

[jmphilman]

I have been seeing my current girlfriend for a little over 2 months now. I had testing done and was told all results were negative, but was just told I am positive for chlamydia and, therefore, have probably given it to her. I am upset, angry, and depressed at the same time. I understand we should have been using contraception so would appreciate if answers could steer away from that. I believe I contracted it before I met her and am deeply hurt that I have given it to her. How should I broach the topic with her? I am in a different part of the country than her now - should I speak to her over the phone or wait until we are together? I'm leaning towards the former so she can begin treatment immediately. I am concerned because she broke up with her ex over almost nothing (her words) and do not want to lose her. I don't want to be one of those people who repeats that they are sorry and everything I have read online about similar situations ends in "dump him". I have never cheated on her.

Additionally, are there any legal implications? They obvious misinformed me about the test results and I believe should pay for testing and treatment for both myself and my girlfriend. While I understand that this website should not be employed for medical or legal advice, I would appreciate comments.

Thanks so much for your time and replies.

[Vance2335]

I post in the STD forum and somtimes here so I will give you advice I give everyone else on the subject.

You do need to speak with her on this soon. She needs to be tested and it is also recommended to treat her no matter if she tests positive or not.

I don't understand one part...you were tested and told negative then I assume they called you back and said your test was actually positive? If this is true and you have not medicated go for another test to see what is right. You might aviod the whole conversation with your gf.

And no there is no legal recourse. It is curable with simple medication.

[specialmom]

Ugh, and ugh.  Yes, my first thought is what chesh chesh said.  She may have given it to you and has had it without being tested prior to unprotected sex with you. When you are eradicating chlamydia, you have to get 3 negative tests to be considered cured.  So, I don't think I'd waste energy being mad at the lab.  Or anyone for that matter.  If you did not cheat and she did not cheat------------ this is what it is and is something to take care of.

Call her immediately and tell her exactly what you say here.  Either you had it and got a false negative or she has had it and you've now got a positive result.  But do it right away.  For women, chlamydia is more dangerous and can screw up their future fertility.  It is a BIG deal in women and don't wait to tell her.  

And one last thing that I must throw in.  Contraception is good for std's but also . . . pregnancy.  Use it and save yourself any other surprises!  good luck

[cheshchesh819]

chlamydia can be carried by a person for years before it shows any signs,are you sure it was you that contracted your girlfriend as it could of been the other way around,this is not to say either of you have cheated because as i said this can be carried for years,as for your questions yes you should tell her straight away that this is happening as if left untreated can cause problems,also if you think you have a case against your clinic then i would suggest you tackle the situation