we talked about marriage before, but i was a little hesitnt about it. . . we started dating back when i was a university student and i've only just really started to build a career .. so its more like .. some day but not now .. cos i wasnt willing to give everything up just yet . . .
When you no longer feel love for him. You could love a person as you would love a best friend, without being emotionally in love and usually, long distance relationships do not work out.
If you are doubting your feeling for him and no longer want intimacy...it's time to let him go.
Ditto jo and megochick. 6 years is too long without marriage and especially for a long distance relationship. How serious of a relationship can it be if you hardly see each other? The sex might be because of you weight gain but I suspect it's because of the distance and not seeing each other as much. The passion and love is gone. Have you guys ever planned on marriage or at least moving to the same vicinity? If not, I don't see this relationship going anywhere. You don't know what he's doing and he doesn't know what you're doing. And you don't really get to know each other when the only communication is the phone and email. The basis of a relationship is spending time together and getting to know each other on a daily basis. Not just once in awhile.
I agree with jo. You've been in a relationship for 6 years and neither of you has thought about commitment or marriage??
As to the not wanting to have sex, it could just be your weight gain, I've gained some weight from pregnancy and can't seem to lose it and it really effects the sex life. I don't feel sexy and i don't want to have sex because i don't think i am sexy right now...does that make sense to you at all?
You have wasted 6 years in a relationship that is going nowhere, if he had wanted marriage, it might be different, but why waste time 6 years is to long. luck jo