Just want you to know i what you are going through, and feel for you it is hard i know, but hang in there we are all here for you luck jo
Good advice Judy. It is truly a difficult thing to be betrayed as you were. It eats at you heart and sould on many levels. I'm a believer in character---- and the two people that posted of your divorces . . . well, your X's sound as if they lack character. They were weak men that did not do the right thing. I'm glad they are out of your lives for that reason . . . but I know that doesn't make you feel any better. You dedicated yourselves to these men and they weren't who they said they are. Well, remember---- it is their problem. They will treat the new women in their lives the same way, make no doubt about it. They lack character and those that lack character always go back to what they know---- and those men knew how to cheat, lie and hurt those who cared for them.
So, I am sorry this happened to you. Embrace all things that you enjoy with life with new zeal. Look to others for support. And know that the problem lies with the men and not you. good luck
Also, if you look at lower right hand side, where it reads 'Groups", Mami created a forum called "infidelity" where you can share you pain, thoughts, feelings, anger and will only receive support, comfort and understanding...it does help and you are not alone. There have been so many post here with both men or women who have been devistated by infidelity. Welcome and we are all here for you if you just want to talk. Judy
I read your post and it just breaks my heart at what you have suffered at the hands of your husband. How awful you must feel and yes, you do have a lot of support here. Right now you need to just take some time to think, heal and when you lose someone you loved and a marriage, you grieve the loss and what you are doing is greaving and feeling anger at the betray. Your feelings are justified. It's very important to have a support system. Your family, friends, speak with a counselor to help you sort out your emotions so that they don't become debilitating. Also, it's time to accept what you can't change and start making plans for your life and your children. It sounds as if he is going through a life change, but I promise you that the grass is not greener on the other side, and this one day will come back to haunt him. One day his children will grow remembering what he put you thru, but start by taking some quite time for yourself. Ask your family if they can stay with the kids for a weekend and go with friends somewhere sunny to absorb the sun, fresh air and refresh. There is always hope and life after a bad marrige, especially infidelity and life has a way of falling into place, so right now, one step at a time and if you feel you need counseling, do so, it will definately help and when you are ready, start planning your life with your children and everything else will fall into place. Hugs, Judy
I know how you feel, although my marriage only lasted 11 years, 4 children, and who knows how many affairs. I was told by my soon-to-be ex husband that he had never loved me and never wanted this life with me and so on and so forth. He left me and my children homeless, and had all of our stuff put in storage while me and the children camped. It was horrible and there is more and more that keeps coming up. I am in a very loving relationship with someone else, but I still find myself thinking about my ex, and if we could have made it work out and why my children have to go through all this. I find that no matter what I feel like my life and marriage was one big joke, on me. I do not know how to get over this kind of hurt, except perhaps to know that the problem is not yourself, but him. He was the one that was horrible, and he was the one that made the life you lived with him miserable. I know that even though I know all this, it is still hard for me to get over the hurtful things he said and the pain of my marriage not working out. But perhaps you could find yourself a companion, and find things to do with him and find someone who treats you like a princess. What do your kids think about what has happened? Is your ex paying spousal support, because I believe you are entitled to it. I hope this works out for you. There must be someone better waiting for you, someone who loves you for you. Good luck
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