How do I approach my boyfriend about him watching trans porn?

[shy85]

I love my boyfriend with all my heart! I should start by saying last year I got out of a extremely abusive relationship of 11 years so I obviously have a few issues. my boyfriend is more than awesome when it comes to helping me with them and I can honestly say I have opened up more emotionally and sexually in the short months we've been together. it started a few weeks ago I started feeling unwanted lonely emotional when I realized he was watching regular porn but it was in the room with me. I just felt like he was trying to hide it at first and I might have freaked a tad bit but like I said I have some issues and we worked through that and I opened up more sexually, at least I thought I did. Recently I have realized he is watching and downloading a lot of trans porn (chicks with a penis/men with breasts). I have done my research and I understand it is quite a bit more normal than he or most people realize. Like I said before I love him very much and the only part that bothers me is that he feels he has to hide it. whether it is just curiosity or something he is really in to I feel like it is something we can work on together. I mean hell I like girls and guys maybe it is something we could get into together if that's what he is in to but I don't know if he doesn't tell me!!!! I am willing to talk about try anything for our relationship because he makes me feel that comfortable mentally physically and emotionally with him in a way I never dreamed existed. My question is how do I approach him to talk to him about this with out coming off the wrong way (believe me everything I try to explain or talk about seems to come out wrong!) or offending/embarrassing  him or potentially pushing him away? Please help he is a very important part of my life and not knowing what to do is driving me crazy and he can tell something is bothering me!

[specialmom]

I guess I'd just ask him what he thinks of it. Remember, some get turned on by something they'd NEVER do.  The excitement is in watching something forbidden in their mind.  So, maybe just have an open conversation about sexual stuff and mention transgendered sex and see where the conversation goes.  His watching it does not mean he's interested in a real way.  And agree, do not let him know you have snooped.  Try NOT to snoop.  Nothing should be secret but respecting space is important in a relationship.  good luck

[shy85]

It is also really important that he doesn't think I purposely went searching through his stuff because I honestly didn't I just happened to come across it on the laptop