Well good luck to you on getting his attention too then :)
this is the way some men think. my husband was actually taught from boyhood that his job is to provide, provide, provide for his family. he thinks about the same way as your husband. when i complain that he won't watch 1 single movie with me, he reminds me of all the things he's bought me, payed for, and is thinking of buying me! only thing is, he's a homebody so i always have him around and can manage to get his attention every once in awhile
Thank you! I guess i will just keep telling him and maybe just maybe one day it will sink in his thick skull.... or else i'll really get fed up... one or the other!
I can understand your frustrations then with him choosing that over you, or it seeming that way sometimes. I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but you should still talk to him and tell him what you've just shared with us. Talking about it and being this honest should help. Then make your decisions based on what he says. Good luck!
Actually he is in a contract but it's not like the regular Army active cause he's AGR. And as far as him having a choice he actually did. He actually volunteered to go on this deployment which was kind of one of the last straws that made me leave back last year. He can choose to leave in 2010 but he would have to resign his commission and i know that is something he doesn't really want to do. See, he's a Pilot and he loves flying. He is so passionate about it, it's actually sick sometimes. And i don't want to make him choose because i know he could end up resenting me for it but i'd just like him to realize that i want more of him and not just the things he can do for me. And There is ALOT of love between us. I can honestly say it's kind of sickening cause people think we are newly weds the way we act with eachother when he's around!
Thanks you guys!
That's the same thing I was thinking, Cootos. Hmm, well, if he does have a choice or when he comes back, the only thing you can do is talk about things with him and explain that the material stuff means nothing compared to him being there with you. Talking things through is always best. Don't give up if you know there's still love between you two. Good luck!
If he's in the army does he even have the choice just to walk away or is he on a contract?