How to keep it

[michael852]

Odd question to ask but how can a man keep his masculinity in a relationship and in the age of feminization

[brice1967]

I think when you generalize a statement as big as that, you are indeed setting yourself up.  I don't want to sound like I am patting myself on the back... but my wife says I am her "everything"!  That is a pretty good feeling, but truth be told... not only am I "everything" she loves, I am on occasion some of the things she doesn't necessarily "love".

I also think sometimes that masculinity gets confused with being cocky.  I don't know a whole bunch of people (men or women) who enjoy a cocky guy... chest all bowed out like he is the 'real deal".  (I was in the bar business for 20 years and watched a ton of those guys get shot down in flames, only to bounce back as more cocky!)

I think you need to just be you.  No facades.  Putting up a facade is kind of a form of lying, as it isn't the real you.  Furthermore, if you aren't being true to yourself, who are you being true too?  

I think you're talking about a compatibility issue.  Look, you're not going to be able to figure out women here or elsewhere.  As soon as you think you have something figured out, here comes a curve ball.  You just have to roll with it.  By being yourself, you're not setting yourself up.  Be you all of the time.  Be the genuine article, and sooner or later you'll find a great deal of compatibility with the fairer sex.

[michael852]

It does, I just do not understand why women want the men they see in romantic comedies but when they get the type of man in the romantic comedies they get angry with it.

[specialmom]

Well, that is a different kind of question.  I think that you must just be true to who you are.  Women are more in a position to make money now and to be someone's equal but that shouldn't demasculenize anyone.  

Do all your manly things and ask her to join you and then when something is of interest to her, join her.  Be equal.  

Does that answer make sense??