How to make him happy in and out of the bedroom

[kiagirl980]

I started dating this guy a little over a month ago. I did have issues with being shy sexually which i am opening up a little with him. I told him how i had been treated in past relationships and i understand now that i shouldnt have because if there is something that he expects me to do sexually and i dont do it he will always bring up the fact that if your ex didnt like it that dont mean that i dont. Then he blames me for compaaring him to my ex. I have never compared him to an ex and never would. I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him but he is putting a wedge between us with this. The last issue came up when we were having sex and he pulled out and orgasmed on my stomach while holding himself in his hand and hes upset with me that i didnt touch him while he was having an orgasm. I told him i didnt know he would like that.


This discussion is related to Confused.

[TTinKKerBBell]

What "answers" are you looking to get??  and if these "answers" are not what you want to hear, what is his unrest? What do you have in store for him?

With all due respect, you miss my point.

I'm suggesting that you know all you need to know right now,
that this is not a good relationship for you,
and that can make your own decision about moving on

Set your own standards for happiness and well-being

[kiagirl980]

Ya we were on cloud nine until he started telling me that this other lady was interested and apparently many more since I came in to the picture but he blames everything on me and my past with my exs. I will get some answers today or he wont rest for five minutes.

[TTinKKerBBell]

It sounds like you are 'waiting' to see what he's going to do (?) - is this correct?

I suggest since you only have a "little more than a month" invested here,  it's kinda like it's been a "long", "bad" date.  Maybe you should tell him that since it hasn't gone well  that you have decided to move on and make a better future for yourself.
In the first month of a new relationship everyone is supposed to be on "cloud nine".  That isn't happening here.  Too many issues for a "new" romance.

good luck

[kiagirl980]

I expect things to be over today when he wakes up and starts talking. He was very quiet all day yesterday and last night, I didnt receive one text all day and that was strange and not like him. When he comes in to work he always got a smart *** remark to make about his friend Sue. Shes the lady that got the hots for him and i think he just does it to **** me off. But after thinking about it last night Im thinking all of this negative crap started happening after he found out she had the hots for him. Its going to be make or break today or over the weekend. I cant continue to live like this. Someone telling me they want a relationship and that I am everything he ever wanted in a woman just to turn around and be like this. I believe he does have big issues. But believe me this wont end pretty at all.

[kiagirl980]

Thank you.

[ajh2585]

Please be careful :) was just reading your posts!