I changed maybe to much

[gwen2002]

I was addicted to alcohol.Now I can't stand it.I hate being around it,I hate being around people who are drunk.I don't mind if someone has a few I can't stand when they start to feel the alcohol.They look sick and disgusting.My boyfriend drinks to much now that I don't drink,my mom drinks to much to.The funny part is when I drank these were my drinking partners I loved being around them.Will I ever be able to handle and put up with there drinking?Will my relationship with my mom come back or will we just fight over her drinking? will I ever feel the same about my boyfriend again?I guess when I was drunk it didn't matter to me how the house looked or how he treated me and now it does.I feel like I woke up from a bad dream.Now I care about everything maybe even to much.When I am around them I no that I give them dirty looks that hurt,I ask myself why because I was like that at one time too.Am I being a b**** about this to them because they keep telling me to stop being a b**** that I was no matter,I keep telling them at least I am way younger than u both and I learned what is right and wrong.

[Jaybay]

Ah yes.  The zeal of the converted.  It's not an easy thing, is it?  Forget about changing anyone else, because you can't do it.  That decision rests in their hands as your decision rested in yours.  

Right now the most important thing is your own recovery.  Do whatever you must to maintain your sobriety.  If you are capable of looking past the weakness of others in your life and not allow their actions to change your own behavior, well - then you're one very strong person.  You may never be able to see a drunk person without feeling disgust.  The trick is to separate their drunkeness from who they really are.  I've had to live with an alcoholic and it took a long time to realize I couldn't change the situation.  What I was capable of doing was protecting myself and walking away when I saw that the switch got flipped.  I can love the person, but don't have to be party to the destructive behavior.  Does that make any sense?

Again, the most important thing here is your own recovery.  Don't to anything to jeopardize it.  If that means you have to distance yourself from drunks, then so be it.

[jo929]

i commend you for quitting alcohol. the hardest part is staying off of it, and it is hard, and believe me i do now. It is going to get worse while you are around the ones that drink, they will try to coax you to just take a drink with them, also, you cant make them stop, remember how you were, just keep looking at them and say, oh my god, did i act like that, did i do those crazy things ect. I know that it may be hard, but it probably would be best to distance yourself from those that do drink, until you are sure, you will not be tempted, I am so glad you have quit, I hope that a lot of people read this, and have the courage to quit before thei health is gone, or they die from it. Try to find a new life, and different friends   best wishes